I can’t speak for anyone else, but to me, I am practicing the subtle art of being disobedient without being hostile or unfriendly. Starting to get all mad about it would not be the point, I think I told OOP that directly that I didn’t really agree with people who were getting super-hostile about it back at him either.
It’s like when your sibling announces that you’re not allowed to say “pancakes,” you have to say “flapjacks” from now on. Guess what’s going to get discussed at every breakfast using what word for a while going forward? They might get bent out of shape about it, but if so they kind of did it to themselves, and maybe getting bent out of shape is how they learn that that’s not what’s up and that’s not the way the relationship between us works.
IDK man. I’ve tried any number of ways to explain this. You’re not required to see it the same way as me, but pick any one of those explanations, they are different facets or ways of looking at how I look at it. I tried a few different ways. If you’re not into it, I get it, but you’re not going to have a lot of luck just repeating the other way until eventually you “win” or w/e.
To me it’s just really really close to intentionally misgendering a person after someone stops liking them. This isn’t a gender related topic though, as far as I know, so I’m not saying people are misgendering (I’d feel a lot more strongly and I think others would as well). But because it’s so close to that it probably just triggers some of the same response in me.
For what it’s worth, if they said something like “don’t call me an asshole, I don’t like that word” after someone criticized them my opinion would be different, because the original request to not be called bro was reasonable (if odd, and obviously threatening to ban people downvoting it was out of line). But being upset people are rightfully criticizing you is very different.
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I can’t speak for anyone else, but to me, I am practicing the subtle art of being disobedient without being hostile or unfriendly. Starting to get all mad about it would not be the point, I think I told OOP that directly that I didn’t really agree with people who were getting super-hostile about it back at him either.
It’s like when your sibling announces that you’re not allowed to say “pancakes,” you have to say “flapjacks” from now on. Guess what’s going to get discussed at every breakfast using what word for a while going forward? They might get bent out of shape about it, but if so they kind of did it to themselves, and maybe getting bent out of shape is how they learn that that’s not what’s up and that’s not the way the relationship between us works.
IDK man. I’ve tried any number of ways to explain this. You’re not required to see it the same way as me, but pick any one of those explanations, they are different facets or ways of looking at how I look at it. I tried a few different ways. If you’re not into it, I get it, but you’re not going to have a lot of luck just repeating the other way until eventually you “win” or w/e.
To me it’s just really really close to intentionally misgendering a person after someone stops liking them. This isn’t a gender related topic though, as far as I know, so I’m not saying people are misgendering (I’d feel a lot more strongly and I think others would as well). But because it’s so close to that it probably just triggers some of the same response in me.
For what it’s worth, if they said something like “don’t call me an asshole, I don’t like that word” after someone criticized them my opinion would be different, because the original request to not be called bro was reasonable (if odd, and obviously threatening to ban people downvoting it was out of line). But being upset people are rightfully criticizing you is very different.