Yeah, times changed and things change. And yes, relationships are good. But why would I date somebody who makes so little money that they can barely feed themselves? All that does at the end of the day means I’m basically Support them and not really be able to add to my retirement fund or any of the other things that I’ve listed.
Maybe in your country, the government supports you when you stop working. In the United States they don’t. You don’t have enough money to retire on and you are well and truly fucked. Please don’t even try to say oh but you have Social Security, Social Security with the way it’s going probably won’t exist by the time I go to retire. Even if it does exist, it’ll have so little money in there would be pointless anyways.
Here’s a good question for you. Would you date somebody if you knew that you’re dating them would cause them serious financial hardship.?
So you would be okay with being dumped the moment you lose your job or don’t make ‘enough’ money for the other person’s tastes? Happy even, for the other person?
It’s just incredibly naive to believe that relationships work like that. What is going to make it or break it is the every day interaction and how you relate to each other as humans. Not only what you are but what you can be, jobs come and go. You are selecting a person to share your days, your time outside work.
But sure, I hope your ‘if you’re poor you’re not enough for me’ sigma grindset mentality finds you happiness.
So you would be okay with being dumped the moment you lose your job or don’t make ‘enough’ money for the other person’s tastes? Happy even, for the other person?
That’s what dating is like for a man. You are only as good as your paycheck or how much you spend on the last date/vacation. You are seen as a failure as a male partner if you are not continually providing. Sounds like you haven’t had the experience of dating as a man.
It’s a basic functional reality of most relationships. Sort of like looks. Most people dump people when they stop being physically attracted to them or wanting to have sex with them.
Yeah, times changed and things change. And yes, relationships are good. But why would I date somebody who makes so little money that they can barely feed themselves? All that does at the end of the day means I’m basically Support them and not really be able to add to my retirement fund or any of the other things that I’ve listed.
Maybe in your country, the government supports you when you stop working. In the United States they don’t. You don’t have enough money to retire on and you are well and truly fucked. Please don’t even try to say oh but you have Social Security, Social Security with the way it’s going probably won’t exist by the time I go to retire. Even if it does exist, it’ll have so little money in there would be pointless anyways.
Here’s a good question for you. Would you date somebody if you knew that you’re dating them would cause them serious financial hardship.?
So you would be okay with being dumped the moment you lose your job or don’t make ‘enough’ money for the other person’s tastes? Happy even, for the other person?
It’s just incredibly naive to believe that relationships work like that. What is going to make it or break it is the every day interaction and how you relate to each other as humans. Not only what you are but what you can be, jobs come and go. You are selecting a person to share your days, your time outside work.
But sure, I hope your ‘if you’re poor you’re not enough for me’ sigma grindset mentality finds you happiness.
I noticed you didn’t answer my last question.
That’s what dating is like for a man. You are only as good as your paycheck or how much you spend on the last date/vacation. You are seen as a failure as a male partner if you are not continually providing. Sounds like you haven’t had the experience of dating as a man.
It’s a basic functional reality of most relationships. Sort of like looks. Most people dump people when they stop being physically attracted to them or wanting to have sex with them.
Thank you you get it
Sorry to hear you’ve had that experience. You’re more than the value capitalism says you have.
Cheers.
I am, but that doesn’t mean other people don’t see me that way. and i have no control over that.
i do a lot of volunteer work, but a lot of my dates think it is stupid and dumb because it’s not about making money or spending it.