I don’t think I’ll make any difference. I’ve known people like her my entire life and you always think that their most recent self-inflicted bad experience would encourage some introspection, but it never does.
The reason they think the way they do in the first place is because they desperately desperately want all of their failings and all of their insecurities to be the fault of someone else. Then all someone needs to come and hand them a convenient punching bag and they’re happy. The problem is they’ll never get better because all of their problems are self-inflicted, and it would require real introspection for them to realise that.
It’s the paradox of tolerance all over again, if you hold back on these people because you feel that doing so would encourage them to change, you are denying them any incentive to change. Yet at the same time if you scold them for their beliefs they’ll simply use that as reinforcement that they are the victims.
I would love to know what you feel the solution to that is. How many times in this community have you seen people say “Trump has destroyed my life, I’d still vote for him again though”?
I agree but do you think that it will be easier to convince her of better ideas whilst also calling her stupid?
So so often right after having their faces eaten, and are shown compassion and alternatives, they shrug, and vote GOP all the same
I don’t think I’ll make any difference. I’ve known people like her my entire life and you always think that their most recent self-inflicted bad experience would encourage some introspection, but it never does.
The reason they think the way they do in the first place is because they desperately desperately want all of their failings and all of their insecurities to be the fault of someone else. Then all someone needs to come and hand them a convenient punching bag and they’re happy. The problem is they’ll never get better because all of their problems are self-inflicted, and it would require real introspection for them to realise that.
It’s the paradox of tolerance all over again, if you hold back on these people because you feel that doing so would encourage them to change, you are denying them any incentive to change. Yet at the same time if you scold them for their beliefs they’ll simply use that as reinforcement that they are the victims.
I would love to know what you feel the solution to that is. How many times in this community have you seen people say “Trump has destroyed my life, I’d still vote for him again though”?