This is delicious and will only surprise their base, who love to paint those of us in the queer community as sexually perverted fetishists who shouldn’t be trusted with children. #notadragqueen

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    3 days ago

    Honestly, I don’t mind the kink itself…As people should be free to express themselves with consenting adults that want to engage with that kind of play. The shame-lashing is truly wild and even marrying a fascist is one of the things that ruffles my feathers; if only our society wasn’t so puritan, so hush-hush with matters of sex, kink, etc. I think we would be a healthier society overall.

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      Yeah that’s the vast majority of my attitude. But I’ve also got three other thoughts in there as well. One is a bit judgemental of a “so uh what’s your relationship with your own gender like there buddy” because while I’ve absolutely known cis crossdressers, oh boy does this all look similar to the sorts of kinks one develops by repressing their needs to try to live up to social expectations for a few decades. Shame over time often gets sexual and if you leave it there it tends to get weird and exaggerated. And this isn’t even necessarily or even probably a trans thing, more likely is a struggling against expectations of masculinity or something like that, but like I highly doubt that someone married to her examines their own internal motivations and desires at all.

      The second judgement is “so uh, what’s your relationship with feminism and your wife in relationship to that kink?” Our kinks are not our beliefs, I’ve known straight men who are dominant in bed and their relationships who are militant feminists and are fully comfortable with dominant women. But also, this guy’s got a bimbofication fetish, and is married to a right wing politician who’s gotten a notorious amount of plastic surgery. Did that shit have a role? Is any of this something he’s ever critically examined? Whatever anyone does behind closed doors or in spaces where it’s acceptable is their own business so long as everyone participating is ok with it, but making sure that such things don’t spill over into your views of classes of people is important imo.

      Also third point of judgment is “dude, this was such a blatant security risk to hire sex workers for a kink you can be blackmailed about while married to a politician, the fuck dude”