When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued against biological males competing in women’s sports and being housed in women’s prisons. I did so loudly and publicly, losing many friends along the way.
Today, some of those same attorneys I worked with are advocating for my right to marry my fiancée to be stripped away.
I fell for obvious right-wing propaganda and rationalized the hate with reason and logic. Now the hate machine is coming for me and that’s not fair!
I’ve been settled in monogamy for ages now, so I don’t know if it’s still the case, but I distinctly remember the vibe in the late '90s and early '00s being LG vs BT. Like the “true gays” didn’t want us making them look weird in front of the straights. Resulted in stuff like Gold Star Lesbians.
It hasn’t gone away. I’m a cis male, pansexual, married to a Trans enby who’s also pan. We’re poly with relationships outside of our own marriage.
I assure you that LG vs BT still exists. I’ve had people accuse me of not being honest with my partner (They know both my gfs, and I know both their gf and bf), or that I’m not actually pan because I’m only with “girls” (My partner is AFAB but enby (They/Them, working on getting top surgery), and my gfs are a cis woman and a trans woman (let that part sink in)).
So because we don’t fit the standard traditional relationship roles, we’re somehow “doing it wrong”.