• 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
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        5 days ago

        Are you loyal though? are you still with your first partner ever? or have you switched at some point? do you still have to be loyal to them?

        relationships change, thats normal and natural. why stay with someone because of loyalty? did you swear an oath on your first date?

          • That’s the monogamous toxicity.

            if you’re not happy with your mare you should inform them. that’s communication. you mention that like a massive ultimatum, but it is the bare minimum. The same way that you should tell all your prospective partners that you will only have sex for children, so they will have sex with you between zero and maybe three times in your life.

            Do you tell that to your partners on the first date? Because if you withold that, then it is you who began the relationship cheating with lies. And those are the lies that killed the relationship, not the partner your tricked into dating you or marrying you trying to fulfill unmet needs.

            if you are only allowed to eat my cooking, but I never cook, you’ll starve and no one would blame you for getting something to eat for yourself.

              • Go read about asexuality. you might be one. for many sex and intimacy is a need like food.

                I spend a week without it, and I can’t sleep or focus, it’s just a normal biological need. you don’t need it, good for you. but don’t set up arbitrary rules and force them on everyone because you don’t like sex.

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                  5 days ago

                  thats called addiction

                  If I cant wake up without 80-proof is alcohol a need like food?

                  • Religious bigot compares healthy human behavior to alcoholism, thinks they have a point.

                    My only regret is that as a man, no matter who much I get bred, I cant get pregnant for an abortion. I’ll keep trying though.

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      15 days ago

      Quality shitpost reply, I think people forget what community they’re in here.

      • 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
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        15 days ago

        sadly, not a shitpost, I see monogamy as unethical. relationships aren’t sports, aren’t property, you cannot “cheat” to win, it makes no sense.

        lying is a problem.

        if my partner came from a conference and told me she got railed by half the conference attendants I’ll be glad she enjoyed herself. and if she wouldn’t trust me to tell the truth it means there was no relationship to begin with as there’s no trust.

        no idea why most people are obsessed with controlling their partners genitals.

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          5 days ago

          Because Sex is not like watching a movie, for entertainment.

          It is a natural process you do with the mate you choose to generate offspring.

          If you do it with others than your mate, it is disloyalty

          • Damn, that is one Christian tradwife take.

            So gay sex isn’t real sex? if my partner reaches menopause, it isn’t sex?

            Find me exactly, where in the human manual and rules it says so? oh wait, it doesn’t exist. we are free to make our own rules and relationships as we please.

            Loyalty? tf is that for. I want my partner to be with me because they want to be with me, not because they swore an oath to only fuck me.

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              Sex should be done only for the purpose of having Children

              And quite literally, read the Bible, it is the human manual

              Thats a personal take, for you. I want my partner to be with me because they want to and I dont want them to cheat on me

              • Humans existed for hundreds of thousands of years before the Bible. Not a manual for people.

                If you’re asexual and only want sex for children, that’s a valid opinion as long as you don’t force it on anyone else.

                Humans are social animals, look at our bonobo cousins, their whole social network revolves around sex for pleasure. It is in our nature. Go teach bonobos the Bible.

                And if you are asexual, and want a partner, make sure they are asexual too, otherwise they will have unmet needs and unless you allow them to have another partner, they’ll be miserable. I’m miserable just talking to you.

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                  Yeah, didnt we sacrifice a BUNCH of kids before the Bible and Jesus?

                  God basically sent Jesus down to die for our sins and teach us the way we should live, technically, he IS th manual

                  And yeah I quite literally tell them on the first date as if showing up in a brown robe wasnt enough

                  • 1 Samuel 15:3

                    Christianity allowed and enabled and benefited from colonialism, slave trade, countless genocides…

                    If you want to protect children go burn some churches.