Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity… Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I’m saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I’m very gratitude-heavy myself).
Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.
I obviously don’t know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.
Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity… Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I’m saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I’m very gratitude-heavy myself).
Wait wait wait, hold on a second, are you explaining to me, how to interact with my own wife? The one I’ve been married to for ten years?
Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.
I obviously don’t know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.
Sounds like you’re not married to a psychopath. Congratulations!