I once wrote 90 % of a thank you letter to a school teacher who
Why would I thank my abusers?
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I saw this one coming before I clicked on the post.
Mr. Rogers died 23 years ago, unfortunately.
Yesterday. And almost every day
The people who affected me the most did it in such way that I am grateful they are no longer part of my life. Can’t thank myself enough for cutting any ties with them.
Yeah, the question is framed poorly. Not all effects on one’s life are good.
Also, with the (possible) exception of kids who grow up in the foster system, I would argue your parents have the largest effect on your life, good or bad. Whether you recognize it or not.
Occasionally I’ll tell my wife thanks for marrying me. I’m a very gratitude-heavy sort of person. If I’m grateful, they’ll know it.
Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity… Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I’m saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I’m very gratitude-heavy myself).
Wait wait wait, hold on a second, are you explaining to me, how to interact with my own wife? The one I’ve been married to for ten years?
Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.
I obviously don’t know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.
Sounds like you’re not married to a psychopath. Congratulations!
A few years ago I gushed in a DM to a dj/YouTuber who is the foundation of my music taste. I watched a ton of his hip-hop sample breakdowns when I was a kid
Those who affect me most never affect me in a good way and don’t deserve any thanks.
Every day, in my prayers.
I never ask questions like this until I am satisfied with my own answer.
