Narcissism is not a character flaw—it’s a protective response.And diagnosing Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is not something we can or should do casually.
When we call someone a narcissist without proper context or diagnosis, we flatten their humanity into a label.
We reduce complex trauma and attachment ruptures into a fixed identity.
And perhaps even more importantly, we cut off the possibility for growth—in ourselves and in the other person.
Healing begins when we are willing to see—not just the behavior, but the wounded humanity beneath it.
https://www.alignmentpsychology.ca/post/narcissism-is-not-a-choice-a-deeper-look-through-the-lens-of-attachment
Yeah, their position is unlikely to change. I may not like people with this condition, but you’re right that it is not a choice
Once you’re aware of it, it’s a fucking choice. Being a shitty person is not a mental disorder.