So I am a parent, and while my daughter is still a toddler (3), I’ve thought about it a lot. These plans may not hold as time goes on, but it’s what I’ll be working from at least.

We have an old Android tablet that is “Daddy’s” where I’ve used ADB to remove almost every app from it, and hide the others. It has Disney Plus (some kids shows), Newpipe (set to open right to a playlist of pre-vetted stuff, mostly Sesame Street), and VLC (Mr. Rogers, Muppet Movies and Specials, some Looney Tunes). It only comes out on long trips (car rides more than two hours long), use is always supervised, and we lock the touch controls as much as we can once the content is playing so she can’t stray into other YouTube content or the more grown up stuff on Disney.

I’m already working on a Kodi setup with just content for her on it as well, which is reach-able from the living room TV and will be on the play room TV if it gets one. All of Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood is up on archive.org, and she loves it. Wife doesn’t like piracy though, so I can’t just get baby girl’s Disney shows on it and make it a one stop shop.

As she gets older, we may set her up with an old laptop and edutainment games, but it would be entirely offline. Maybe a Minecraft server for her and friends we’ve met IRL. A co-worker runs one for his tween and it seems to do well used that way.

I don’t think we’ll be allowing internet until 12 years old or so. Even if she needs it earlier for school, she’ll start on an isolated network segment to reduce chance of any malware spreading to the whole house. Use will be in a common area of the house where Mom and I can see what she’s into at a glance. It will be filtered with PiHole or whatever the modern equivalent ends up being, to block both ads and inappropriate content. Ad blocker on the device itself with similar settings if possible to help catch any strays.

As she gets older, start teaching media and advertising literacy, as other comments have suggested. As we do that, we slowly scale back the training wheels/filters. Depending on how well we think she’s ready, I can see unattended, still filtered, but somewhat monitored at 14 maybe. Cut the content filters at 15 maybe. Cut the ad filters at 16 maybe. That’s all going to be super-dependent on her own “internet and ad literacy” though.

I want her to get enough of an idea of the unfiltered and ad-ridden internet that it’s not a danger to her, but I do hope she’ll decide to use ad blocking for her own sake.

17 or 18 it’s completely hands off. Can’t protect them forever, and she’ll need to learn one way or another.

My goal is to protect her from creeps, protect her from exposure to stuff she’s too young for, and to make sure she’s prepared for the wider internet hellscape before dropping her in the deep end unsupervised like I was.

I’d be very interested in hearing the experience of any parents who have already been through this.