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  • That developmental comment strikes me as more autistic, and I’m not sure if that’s even accurate for ADHD. My understanding is that it’s based off serotonin receptor issues that ultimately result in reduced executive functioning capability. Basically the brain literally doesn’t release the reward chemical as appropriate, so we hyper fixate on immediate reward.

    Most people saying shit like “everyone is a little X” are just being dismissive. Maybe they don’t care, maybe they don’t want to talk about it, but you’re probably not convincing them. I’d probably keep it short with something along the lines of “Most people drink sometimes too, but some people are alcoholics. The difference is severity.”

    I’ll be real, I don’t often discuss my “conditions” outside of my spouse, my immediate family, and close friends. I don’t go out of my way to hide it, but I’m not exactly volunteering it.

    Anyway, the difference in a lot of these sort of things that people say everyone is a little bit of, is the severity as mentioned earlier.

    Like for depression: Yeah, everyone gets sad sometimes. Most people can probably recall a time where something made them sadder than made logical sense. Most people don’t have trouble finding happiness in literally everything, truly believe the world would be better off without them in it, seriously plan suicide methods and weigh the pros and cons of technique, and have such literal and real problems getting out of bed in the morning that sometimes they just don’t.

    OCD: Everyone has certain things they’re extra particular about. Most people don’t spend 6 hours in a frenzied panic scrubbing their whole body raw because they found a small hair they didn’t recognize on their shirt.

    ADHD: Everyone has issues focusing sometimes. Most people don’t have a near full incapability to deal with things that only have long term effects. Most people don’t have trouble maintaining focus on things for longer than 5 minutes at a time. Most people are able to more regularly force themselves to do what they should rather than what is the most immediately gratifying.

    These aren’t the best examples, but I hope I get the point across.

    And don’t discount the depression and anxiety diagnoses either. Depression is pretty frequently co-morbid with ADHD, as far as I know.

    Personally, I’m on some ADHD meds, anti-depressants, and anti-anxiety. ADHD meds took me probably 5 years of dedicated trying with my Dr to find the right one and dosage that worked for me (this was before quick and extended release meds were a thing). Anti-depressants have luckily been a one and done, got it right the first time. Got on them when I realized that while I had plenty of reasons to be sad, it was preventing me from being able to reliably get out of bed in the morning and do basic care things like showering on a regular basis. Had a period where I didn’t leave my room except to eat for a few months. Tried breaking from them a few times and confirmed they’re still needed. Similar with anti-anxiety. Got it right the first time. Got them when I realized I was literally unable to leave work at work and would just loop stressful shit from my workday in my head during my downtime. Was having stress nightmares about being at work. Same thing, took a break and the shit came back so… yeah.









  • Yeah, lemmy simply doesn’t notify you when a mod takes action against your posts or comments, and it’s not always clear in indicating what has been deleted or not to the user who posted it. It’s a pretty frustrating issue with the software/system.

    If the mod doesn’t DM you, or make a comment on the post before they remove it, you won’t be notified.

    But the mod logs are time stamped based off when the action was taken. You can look through the code yourself, or I can share a screenshot of multiple mod actions over the course of a few hours against a single post that all have different time stamps (based off the time each action was taken) rather than all having a single timestamp of when the post was made.


  • Are we certain this is first offense? The mod logs screenshotted in a few places in this thread show removals over months.

    OP insists that’s because it’s showing the date the posts were made, and not the timestamp of the mod action, but that’s definitively not how the modlogs work. I can bring up some screenshots of mods taking multiple actions against a doxxing post to demonstrate if needed (long story, someone accused me of doxxing them because it happened while we were arguing and I took the time to break down the timeline of events to show it made no sense to be me).




  • Great callout!

    I participate in the techtakes community on awful.systems, which is devoted to laughing at tech bro “takes”. HN posts and comments are almost too easy as targets for derision and are common topics for meta-discussion of the reprehensible opinions.

    I was just trying to have a light touch here. Start with the facts. We can talk about the literal cults spun off from it later.

    The site’s one of the clearest windows into the myriad and shockingly widespread ghoulish opinions that seem to fester in places that consider themselves important to the tech industry or attract people who think they are.

    I really should start keeping a tally on shit like “how many times have I seen eugenics suggested on HN this month”.