• DaniNatrix@leminal.space
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      59 minutes ago

      This is so tough. My partner’s mother is a vicious manipulator and abuser, still tries to put her hands on her grown children. I love him so much and want to do my best to support him but I can’t have a relationship with her. She’s not permitted at our house because every time we’ve tried, she starts a toddler tantrum over whatever comes to mind and gets violent.

      I worry it weighs heavily on him and I wish I could stomach more interaction with her, I imagine it would make his life easier in some ways. But I’ve hit my max when it comes to abusive people. I’m a domestic abuse survivor and I simply don’t have any more space for folks who behave that way.

      • rumba@lemmy.zip
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        6 minutes ago

        I worry it weighs heavily on him

        I’m on the other side of that equation, and while my father being a racist POS weighs a bit on me, inviting him over and dealing with that bullshit fallout would be 50x worse.

        ya’ doin’ fine