I can’t reveal my first name but it is old-fashioned English–think Meredith, Esther, Olga, Gretchen…
My last name makes me too identifiable. It is an Ellis Island misspelling that makes me the only person on this earth with my exact first and last name combo.
I thought I would change it with marriage but I don’t think marriage is going to happen for me, at least not anytime soon, and I’m not putting anything on hold for it anymore.
I think with my old-timey first name I could afford a zany last name. I like Winter and Snow. I don’t want it to be too “out there” or difficult to spell, so I’m not going to do something like Zephyr, and I would like suggestions that aren’t too tied to a specific concept. Interesting enough but not excessively unique.
My background is Taiwanese and white American without ties to any specific country strong enough to pick a name from some European country I only have a bit of a connection to from generations ago. The white side is Irish, Welsh, and French. I am not trying to stand out excessively. I do not feel a strong connection to my Taiwanese side, and that could be its own post. I don’t want something commonly mispronounced. I was thinking something like Shaw? It might make my ex think I’m obsessed with him but he already thinks that so whatever.
For any advice post, there should be one thing that is most important: a clear description of the problem.
Otherwise, all advice is almost completely random/useless. Because maybe changing the name is the right solution, but maybe it isn’t. There’s no way to know.
In my opinion, there is no explanation of the problem at all here. You just say “too identifiable”, however my name/lastname is probably also completely unique, yet I can’t even think of a problem I would have with that.
So, what is the actual problem?
For this particular post, I don’t know that there needs to be a problem to get a response. OP could have just left out all of the back story and asked for new last name ideas. I think the story just adds a little context for the sake of conversation and to help scope potential reaponses. If it is for anonymity, just go with Smith.
This also isn’t an opinion community. That’s asklemmy.
Or I guess maybe it is. Who knows. With no defined theme like it’s subreddit namesake, it’s just asklemmy2 at this point. Might as well make it a meme community, too