A year ago I broke up with my gf of 8 years after finding out she cheated on me and had been for a long time.
I quite literally have zero friends remaining at this point. Every single mutual friend has stayed friends with her and completely ghosted me. I can only suspect I’ve been slandered and that’s why nobody wants anything to do with me anymore. I tried going to local shows as that was my community but it’s completely sucked the fun out of things because it’s a small city and there’s always eyes on me from different corners of the room like I’ve done something wrong and I don’t feel welcome anymore. So I’ve just stopped attending concerts which used to be my safe space. Standing by myself watching the band while people stare a hole in the side of my head isn’t exactly enjoyable.
My lived experience has now taught me that 90% of people are cheaters, liars, and thieves, and while I know that’s not reality, it’s fundamentally changed the way I approach friendships. I don’t open up to people anymore because I don’t trust anyone anymore.
I don’t think or care about my ex but the friends who ghosted me still cause daily intrusive thoughts. I don’t know why I’ve been abandoned. No closure and no way to defend myself. I never expected how much more it hurts to lose friends than it does to lose a partner.
I miss my friends but they’ve proven they don’t care about me so when they inevitably reach out to me there’s no way I’ll be able to forgive.
Probably I need to go back to therapy again but just curious if anyone has experienced similar.
Yeah same situation, but even people who knew me for 20 years shouldn’t have bought into that nonsense especially knowing the history of the relationship
I guess there’s nothing you can really do to ever come back from this if this is the root problem. Just my word vs hers and she’s expert level manipulator
Edit: I didn’t come here to argue with anyone. But sure, tag me as “probably a rapist” and don’t talk to me. I’m getting used to it. Lol
Maybe you were having a bad day in the above linked convo, but fyi you come across as needlessly argumentative and more than a little misogynist. Tbh i didn’t even see the comment where you talk about being accused of rape because your others were too off-putting for me to continue reading.
Your comments make you seem angry at women. That doesn’t make you a rapist, but it goes a long way to explaining why all your friends would believe an allegation.