Nice, any more specific yet universal things underlying that? Like are you cool with talking about a direct experience where something was though or said by someone and there was a “clicked”-moment?
I’ll start with the counterexample. As a young teenager, I did one session of counseling with someone through the church I went to. I said I was feeling down because kids at school were calling me gay (among lots of other things). She spent the entire rest of the session assuring me that I wasn’t gay, because that’s a sin, because she knew people who were gay, and I wasn’t like them, which would be bad. I wasn’t even thinking about the gay part, I just couldn’t figure out why the kids at school didn’t like me, but she clearly wasn’t interested in hearing me out so I switched to smiling and nodding and never went back.
It took me years to ditch the church and many more years to give therapy another chance. My new therapist sent me a Jake the Dog meme and I feel seen.
That therapy isn’t scary and that putting in the work can be satisfying.
Nice, any more specific yet universal things underlying that? Like are you cool with talking about a direct experience where something was though or said by someone and there was a “clicked”-moment?
I’ll start with the counterexample. As a young teenager, I did one session of counseling with someone through the church I went to. I said I was feeling down because kids at school were calling me gay (among lots of other things). She spent the entire rest of the session assuring me that I wasn’t gay, because that’s a sin, because she knew people who were gay, and I wasn’t like them, which would be bad. I wasn’t even thinking about the gay part, I just couldn’t figure out why the kids at school didn’t like me, but she clearly wasn’t interested in hearing me out so I switched to smiling and nodding and never went back.
It took me years to ditch the church and many more years to give therapy another chance. My new therapist sent me a Jake the Dog meme and I feel seen.