Bit of a shower thought: Outside of limited circumstances, like interviews or therapy, nobody is really expected to give you honest feedback on how you come across.
This sucks. I’ve been told I come across as unfriendly once, but I have no idea if I was just nervous and tired at the time. I still cherish that one moment almost 10 years ago when someone told me I was funny in some corporate team building bs.
Now, I could ask friends and family, but I believe they would probably not tell me the full, honest truth. After all, they (hopefully) like me and I would probably avoid being too harsh to everyone but very close people in private.
At the same time, I know plenty of people who really should get some feedback, who probably believe they are funny while everyone is bored and annoyed and hopes they talk a little less and the like.
So, are there socially accepted ways to get feedback on how you come across?
I realize that people are strange, relationships are hard, P!=NP and anime is not real. Still, it would be nice to have.
I’ve wanted this forever!! Especially when i was younger, but still somewhat to today. It would be so great if there was some way to get honest feedback from people about what they think of me. There have been lots of times in my life when my social life wasn’t going as well as i would want, but how do you improve something when you don’t know what needs improvement?
Like do i frequently have a bad smell? Am i too loud? Are my jokes landing poorly? It would be so great if i knew what people honestly thought of me!
Yeah, right?! I catch myself debating if I should tell a friend of mine that he smells sweaty or if I shouldn’t, and I can only imagine other people have similar considerations.
As someone who sweats more than an average person and has a rather limited antiperspirant tolerance. Only roll ons are suitable and even then the smell must be specifically chosen by my wife.
Of course i shower religiously whenever possible and after every activity that makes me sweat. During summer up to twice a day.
Yes, i would be rather greatful if you’d let me know that I’m smelling bad.
What about an anonymous email?