I am a father of two. Wife was working today. It is very warm today, so I wanted to go swimming with my kids. My son was oke. My daughter also wanted to go, but she was on her period. She didn’t want to go swimming in this situation. But for her it is also a very warm day. How can she find cooling? Any tips?
Actually if you read this again it goes like this: women of lemmy = people that menstruate. Assuming that women menstruate is a normal assumption. And asking women how to deal with such issues is also perfectly normal and alright.
Normal ≠ okay
It was once normal to call black people by a slur.
It was once normal to backhand a woman for daring to speak around men.
Don’t tell a marginalized group that they’re overreacting for being marginalized and someone comes in and says “it’s normal so shut up about it”
You’re just victimising yourself for no reason. The OP is just asking women because they usually have experience with this and is trying to help their daughter. Asking women for advice does not automatically exlude anyone with a vagina that does not identify as a woman.
Nothing about this post is marginalising anybody. Stop acting like a petulant child.
Also women might have experiences closer to those of OP’s daughter than somevody else who did not always identify as a woman would have. It is a perfectly valid question in the sense of ‘my daughter is having this specific issue -> how did other women deal with it at her age or even now’. None of this line of thinking is excluding the trans or being transphopbic or even anything in the vicinity of that.
Would you react the same way if a mom asked ‘the men of lemmy’ about a specific issue that her son is dealing with as a boy?
I agree with you. There are enough real trans issues out there without picking fights at innocent questions asked in good faith that are completely unrelated. Nowhere was there anything exclusionary in that post. If you look for negativity everywhere you’ll find it but you won’t make any friends and you probably won’t help your cause.
It’s the ‘I like waffles. - Oh so you hate pancakes?!’ fallacy pretty much. Someone says something and then a different person finds something slightly related and spins it in a negative way.
That’s a good way of putting it. It was such a hostile reaction to an innocent parental question like holy Batman.
I’m just glad to see most people agree the response was totally unwarranted and unnecessarily hostile.