Undiagnosed here, seeking some inspiration and will to not lose hope.

Had anyone successfully gotten in tune with your ever changing hyper fixations?

  • If so, how long do your fixation periods last?
  • Do you have a structure or benchmark after which you can effectively “close that chapter”?
  • What strategies do you have to nudge yourself towards topics which will be meaningful in the long run?

I tend to go from rabbit hole to rabbit hole but it never feels like I’m in control. These fixations never produce any meaningful outcomes and always have a cost which I pay for by neglecting other aspects of my life.

It is a superpower and a weakness as you all probably know. It’s great for expanding your interests and appreciating life through different perspectives. I don’t want to lose it and want to get into some harmony with it. Anyone had any success?

Thank you :)

  • Scratch@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    6·
    19 hours ago

    I’ve stopped giving myself a hard time for having wandering interests and not finishing anything.

    I try to look at it more as I’m having fun researching and implementing things, that’s what hobbies are for.

    Trying to force myself to finish things really sucked the fun out of them. Now I have literal and figurative buckets for each project so I can easily put down and pick up projects.

    I find myself moving between fewer projects and putting more effort into them than I would have before.

    I do keep some buckets closer than others, so I’m more likely to pick those up when I have free time;

    Drawing

    Designing fidget toys

    Electronics project C

    • button_masher@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
      1·
      14 hours ago

      I do tend to admonish myself so yes, giving yourself a hard time is not a healthy long term strategy… need to be kinder to myself…

      Having literal buckets is a lovely idea. Visible and easily accessible. I tend to gravitate towards digital rabbit holes which are harder to “complete”. Getting your hands dirty with physical objects is a great alternative.

      I presume you’ve built the framework over time to try limit the number of projects you’re juggling. Glad you’re making the most of it.

      Appreciate your response :)

      • Scratch@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        2·
        11 hours ago

        For digital rabbit holes, something like Notion helps a lot. I have one page per interest and I collect learnings and links related to the topic in there. Similarly to the physical buckets, they are all in one space so you can have a quick look at refresh your memory and pick up where you left off.

        • button_masher@lemmy.mlOPEnglish
          1·
          10 hours ago

          I’ve been a little intimidated by Notion due to the sheer customisation potential. However, it does seem to help folks and it’d be a shame not to have at least tried it.

          You’ve nudged a fellow being towards a good habit and for that I thank you.

          • Scratch@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            2·
            7 hours ago

            I don’t even know nothing about the customization. I just create a page and dump links, pictures and some typing in there.

            But yes! Small, incremental change!