In all honesty, lots of people have children not even because they especially want to, but because they feel obligated to by their role in society. That’s not a reason many people are likely to give, but it’s not a selfish reason.
It is selfish, you have a kid because you don’t want to handle other people’s opinions about you, giving in to the pressure is easier that standing your ground, more comfortable to. So because you don’t want to argue with your parents and deal with the backlash, you decide to bring another human being into existence. That’s pretty selfish
Meeting your obligations is the most unselfish thing you can possibly do. Doing things out of obligation to others is the fundamental unit of unselfishness.
Indeed, I do not want to shame people who decide to have a bunch of kids if they truly want to, but they should really think about their choices and the consequences, because at the end of the day, those people that pressured you into having a kid will not help you if things go wrong, I’m talking about mental and physical illness, I am talking about financial destitution, I’m talking about accidents, and 1001 other things that can happen
In all honesty, lots of people have children not even because they especially want to, but because they feel obligated to by their role in society. That’s not a reason many people are likely to give, but it’s not a selfish reason.
It is selfish, you have a kid because you don’t want to handle other people’s opinions about you, giving in to the pressure is easier that standing your ground, more comfortable to. So because you don’t want to argue with your parents and deal with the backlash, you decide to bring another human being into existence. That’s pretty selfish
Meeting your obligations is the most unselfish thing you can possibly do. Doing things out of obligation to others is the fundamental unit of unselfishness.
@thepig oh man, sooooo many people fit this mold. “Because I have to. Because its what you do”. No. Its not. You dont have to do ANYTHING.
Indeed, I do not want to shame people who decide to have a bunch of kids if they truly want to, but they should really think about their choices and the consequences, because at the end of the day, those people that pressured you into having a kid will not help you if things go wrong, I’m talking about mental and physical illness, I am talking about financial destitution, I’m talking about accidents, and 1001 other things that can happen