Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really
Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
People do get rejected for their height lol, ppl are shallow, all woman aren’t saints, what you should be saying is you should avoid anyone that cares about height, theyll remove themselves and its a non issue, ive had girls attracted to me calling me 6 foot be less atteacted to me visibly when I corrected them and said im actually 5 10 no logic in it lol
This absolutely. I’m a 5’1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.
If you lined up every man I’ve dated over my lifetime, you’d see men from 5’2" to 6’4".
The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you’ll find success.
When my now husband told me he was 6’3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn’t have batted an eye if he was shorter
Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.
I dated one guy who told me he was 5’10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5’7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn’t like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
How old are you, im curious if its a generational thing, like mid 20s women will straight up openly say theyd never date a man under a certain height openly in public lol
I’m ~40, so I don’t date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I’m also very left wing so I don’t interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe “I need a tall man and I’ll say it out loud” happens more there?
idk im thankful for my friends but ik its a bubble forsure, everyones divisive and shallow lately, woman especially, because modern woman, have infinite choice, you wont feel content, compared to modern average dude with minimal choices desperate to keep what they can get coming off desperate and insecure lol
I will say that this is some significant gaslighting. The bar is by no means “on the ground” if you are a guy - unless maybe your bar for women is also on the ground. Like, could you woo a grossly overweight, extremely insecure woman who works at Walmart and has no hobbies other than complaining about her more successful sister? Yeah, probably. But idk, I personally have standards in both the looks and personality department for women I want to date, and these are not some superficial “shallow” standards - they are standards without which I seriously have no interest whatsoever in spending time with or sleeping with a potential partner.
So the question is - where is the bar for the women you’d be interested in dating? Like, the cute, athletic, cheerful, intelligent, successful girls who usually don’t break down in tears because they are out of orange juice. And the answer is - higher than you wish it was! Because every other guy also wants to date these women, and while some of those guys are shitty, a lot of them are also jacked, hilarious, kind, emotionally open, rich, and yes, tall! If you want to date these women, you have to work hard to make yourself stand out - getting in better shape, dressing in a way that looks good and expresses your personality, becoming more emotionally open and sociable, having an interesting and fun lifestyle, etc. And then you have to work hard again, because unless you are just an ungodly top shelf man, most women will still not want to date you for some reason, most of which are out of your control, so you will therefore have to shoot your shot with a lot of women until you find the ones who are into you.
Oh my God, YES!!! WOMEN LIKE TALL GUYS!!! Obviously I don’t mean all women, but a statistical sampling of women would reveal that “being tall” or “being taller than me” is a turn on for a significant majority of women. This doesn’t mean short guys should take the black pill and give up on dating because all women are shallow bitches. But it does mean that dating will be harder if you are a short guy. This isn’t a death knell for your dating life, but it does mean you will need to work harder at the things you do have control over, and it means you’ll get rejected more often for a specific reason outside your control.
And meanwhile, these women who aren’t into short guys aren’t “immature”, or “shallow”. They are simply staring their preferences and/or requirements. Physical attraction is important, and trying to date someone you aren’t physically attracted to is a bad way to start a relationship. After all, you probably wouldn’t want to date a girl with a face that looks like she got run over by a semi truck. That’s not fair, she can’t control how her face looks, but also, fairness doesn’t matter because you don’t want to date her. Full stop. Terminal value. Life isn’t fair, and it isn’t up to some random person you run into to make it fair for you. That’s a big case of not their problem.
To summarize: Dating is harder for shorter guys. This is no one’s fault, and no one is being a bad person. Short guys just need to work harder. Sorry.
I’m guessing you’re a man ?
I’m 5’4 male and average looking and a bit chubby
Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
People do get rejected for their height lol, ppl are shallow, all woman aren’t saints, what you should be saying is you should avoid anyone that cares about height, theyll remove themselves and its a non issue, ive had girls attracted to me calling me 6 foot be less atteacted to me visibly when I corrected them and said im actually 5 10 no logic in it lol
People also get rejected for not being 300 lbs. Everyone has tastes.
I think the number of girls out there ACTUALLY rejecting people for height is not as many as you’d think. And good riddance.
This absolutely. I’m a 5’1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.
If you lined up every man I’ve dated over my lifetime, you’d see men from 5’2" to 6’4".
The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you’ll find success.
When my now husband told me he was 6’3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn’t have batted an eye if he was shorter
Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.
I dated one guy who told me he was 5’10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5’7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn’t like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.
There’s a saying “the bar for men is in hell”
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
How old are you, im curious if its a generational thing, like mid 20s women will straight up openly say theyd never date a man under a certain height openly in public lol
I’m ~40, so I don’t date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I’m also very left wing so I don’t interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe “I need a tall man and I’ll say it out loud” happens more there?
ive seen both political ends say it, some ppl are hung up on height for whatever reason
idk im thankful for my friends but ik its a bubble forsure, everyones divisive and shallow lately, woman especially, because modern woman, have infinite choice, you wont feel content, compared to modern average dude with minimal choices desperate to keep what they can get coming off desperate and insecure lol
I will say that this is some significant gaslighting. The bar is by no means “on the ground” if you are a guy - unless maybe your bar for women is also on the ground. Like, could you woo a grossly overweight, extremely insecure woman who works at Walmart and has no hobbies other than complaining about her more successful sister? Yeah, probably. But idk, I personally have standards in both the looks and personality department for women I want to date, and these are not some superficial “shallow” standards - they are standards without which I seriously have no interest whatsoever in spending time with or sleeping with a potential partner.
So the question is - where is the bar for the women you’d be interested in dating? Like, the cute, athletic, cheerful, intelligent, successful girls who usually don’t break down in tears because they are out of orange juice. And the answer is - higher than you wish it was! Because every other guy also wants to date these women, and while some of those guys are shitty, a lot of them are also jacked, hilarious, kind, emotionally open, rich, and yes, tall! If you want to date these women, you have to work hard to make yourself stand out - getting in better shape, dressing in a way that looks good and expresses your personality, becoming more emotionally open and sociable, having an interesting and fun lifestyle, etc. And then you have to work hard again, because unless you are just an ungodly top shelf man, most women will still not want to date you for some reason, most of which are out of your control, so you will therefore have to shoot your shot with a lot of women until you find the ones who are into you.
Oh my God, YES!!! WOMEN LIKE TALL GUYS!!! Obviously I don’t mean all women, but a statistical sampling of women would reveal that “being tall” or “being taller than me” is a turn on for a significant majority of women. This doesn’t mean short guys should take the black pill and give up on dating because all women are shallow bitches. But it does mean that dating will be harder if you are a short guy. This isn’t a death knell for your dating life, but it does mean you will need to work harder at the things you do have control over, and it means you’ll get rejected more often for a specific reason outside your control.
And meanwhile, these women who aren’t into short guys aren’t “immature”, or “shallow”. They are simply staring their preferences and/or requirements. Physical attraction is important, and trying to date someone you aren’t physically attracted to is a bad way to start a relationship. After all, you probably wouldn’t want to date a girl with a face that looks like she got run over by a semi truck. That’s not fair, she can’t control how her face looks, but also, fairness doesn’t matter because you don’t want to date her. Full stop. Terminal value. Life isn’t fair, and it isn’t up to some random person you run into to make it fair for you. That’s a big case of not their problem.
To summarize: Dating is harder for shorter guys. This is no one’s fault, and no one is being a bad person. Short guys just need to work harder. Sorry.