So wait, you guys sleep in separate rooms but you still need to go to bed at the same time? And you can’t even wash the dishes becuase it’s too loud? At 9:30pm at night? This is just not acceptable. So one change in your working hours to a later time would implode everything? Your man needs a white noise machine, or ear plugs. If he can’t sleep through another person doing the dishes in another room, that’s a him problem.
I have lots of Autistic and ADHD friends. Yes, we can be loud without meaning to, but I doubt even my noises ADHD friend would stop me from being able to sleep by hand washing the dishes. Whatever you do, whatever happens NEVER EVER NEVER have a child with this man. He will implode and you will be charged with the horrible crime of having the baby make noise at night when he is SleEpInG. How you to have a dog is beyond me. Does she never make noise at night?
Aw fuck you’re right, my brain glossed right over that for some damn reason. Sorry, I fucked up.