I’ve been trying to get zulip working.
Sounds like it addresses your requirements.
Seems to be a real bitch to self host - I’ve been doing this a while but the compose yaml is pretty arcane with hundreds of environment variables.
I didn’t “give up” exactly but it’s been on the back burner for a month or so now.
On one hand I agree that today, the easiest solution is freetube or similar.
However, this problem seems to become “unsolved” every other Wednesday.
On one hand, I imagine the administration is treating these documents with the utmost care.
On the other hand, it sounds like thousands of people have been involved in handling them.
There are probably dozens of people with their own copies, ready for use as blackmail.
I’m honestly kinda surprised that Google is apparently not in fact doing this already and (according to the comments here) continues to not do so.
You seem to have strange ideas of what I, or others, will respect people for doing?
I would have incredible respect for anyone refusing an order because they feel that it is illegal.