Eskating cyclist, gamer and enjoyer of anime. Probably an artist. Also I code sometimes, pretty much just to mod titanfall 2 tho.

Introverted, yet I enjoy discussion to a fault.

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  • I think of them as on the same spectrum.

    A thin skinned person, is someone when you stab verbally or try to otherwise harm them in a non-physical manner, it goes straight through, and they are hurt by it. It affects their confidence, behaviour and health.

    A thick skinned person, is someone you can insult, and they can dismiss the meaning of the words, and be unaffected by the intended harm.

    But that is not mutually exclusive with going “wtf, did you just try to stab me?”. They are opposites, in the sense that the word describes whether malicious words or actions can “pass through” and have the intended effect.

    But if someone tries to shoot me, and I’m wearing armor that means it won’t kill me, that still leaves the fact that they tried to shoot me. That I was able to survive it does not make the attempt on my life ok. Being thick skinned, or “wearing armor”, doesn’t mean you react to attacks with inaction.

    It describes whether you suffer harm when under fire. Not how you behave in reaction to it.

    A lot of people think of being thick skinned as synonymous with turning the other cheek. But being able to take BS doesn’t mean you have to passively allow it.


  • You don’t sound thin skinned.

    Having a thick skin doesn’t mean being unbothered by people trying to walk over you, and thereby letting them.

    I get accused of being thinskinned sometimes because of starting a confrontation over a problem or behaviour I’ve noticed, but that makes no sense. Being sensitive to issues is not a weakness, and being numb to them is certainly not a strength.

    I can push for change precisely because I’m unbothered by the stress of working against the status quo.

    But like others said, you don’t always need to convince. If you say you won’t cover a task because it’s not your responsibility, then there is nothing to discuss. If they expect a task to be done even when you said it won’t, that is not your problem.

    It’s theirs.







  • Except that “fake” voting patterns become impossible to spot.

    The way they are now, you can look at how an account votes, when it was created, as well as their posts and comments, to determine whether an account is a legitimate user.

    Creating fake accounts that look like legit users is a lot of work. Creating just one, then setting a number a really high, is much, much easier.











  • That’s good.

    But there is definitely a cultural difference as well.

    That said, it’s not like everyone in the west online is nice, but in western culture it has gotten MUCH better.

    It wasn’t too long ago that every english speaking person in a video game chat was absolutely horrible. But today I encounter much more people online genuinely trying to be nice a constructive. Especially in games from studios that care.

    And you can leave a negative review, and still be respectful. That isn’t what the majority are doing.

    I hope that improves. China has a lack of truly wholesome devs that are also as successful as some western indies. Instead it is a hellscape of companies arguably worse than EA, Activision and Ubisoft.


  • I don’t know about you, but at least in my circle, being “sick and tired of this shit” is becoming extremely normal.

    People hate Windows. They hate how apps become more complicated, not simpler. They hate how everything is becoming a subscription. They hate how keeping their files safe is a giant clusterfuck of managing half a dozen cloud services constantly sucking up every file from every one of their devices. They hate how TVs aren’t just fucking TVs anymore. They hate how their toaster, oven, dishwasher, and coffee maker needs wifi. They hate how all their favorite things are fragmeneted across a dozen streaming services again. They hate how work involves figuring out a dozen chat apps plus email, a dozen file processing programs, and how all their names and icons keep changing and their prices keep increasing. They hate how remembering up to a hundred account password is an absolutely catastrophy. They hate how their purchases don’t last. They hate how “no” doesn’t exist anymore in marketing…

    I could go on.

    Speak to literally anyone, and they’ve DEFINITELY picked up on at least some part of this, and it has them absolutely livid about how unfair it is.