I made a post to https://lemmy.world/c/unpopularopinion

https://aussie.zone/post/34735670

One comment was very rude, so I reported it. Another comment admitted that they were going against the rules of the community and downvoting a post they disagreed with, so I reported it. Two total reports I’ve ever made in that community that I can remember. Suddenly I’m banned by @JonsJava@lemmy.world, who says I’m reporting “everybody” and starts shit talking me publicly in the comments.

I know I’m not supposed to include private communications to “prove my point”, but at least it’s interesting to read.

Tap for inadmissible evidence

They stopped replying after that.

I now know it’s a guideline, not a rule, but Jesus, what an unfriendly community over there. Just a DM explaining it’s not a rule makes sense. Or at least lift the ban after the explanation, and apologise for being so snarky.

  • Universal Monk@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    52·
    11 days ago

    Just a DM explaining it’s not a rule makes sense.

    I just wanna point out that doesn’t always work either, and there may be reasons mods don’t do that. I mod a few communites and one time I banned someone and followed up with a DM about why and explained the rules. The DM was something like, “Hey sorry for the ban. The reason was because…, but it’s only temp, so feel free to come back after it expires.” That’s it. Two sentences

    I thought I was being helpful by giving additional context. The user actually then created a post somewhere else talking about how weird I was for DMing them and how horrible I was for doing that. And most people in the thread agreed that my single “unsolicited” DM after banning them was not cool to do.

    Even though I was polite and professional in my DM, their over-reaction pretty much taught me that I will never again feel the need explain myself for mod decisions. lol

    I do think it was total PTB in your personal case though!

    • curbstickle@anarchist.nexusEnglish
      5·
      11 days ago

      I just wanna point out that doesn’t always work either

      Can confirm, I still do it but the responses can be anything from “Oh I understand” to “Totally see why you removed!” to “You’re a complete piece of shit!”.

      I stand by my moderation though. And I offer them the opportunity to complain about me on !selfhosted@lemmy.world or here in reply. They can even post up about wanting me removed, and if the community wants that I’ll pass along to someone else.

      But the replies to explaining why what they did was against the rules can vary pretty heavily. Won’t stop me from doing it though, I think its appropriate so its what I do.