You can’t do anything, she has to choose to make changes.
As someone struggling with this for decades, I see what she’s doing. BTDT.
For me it’s always been if something gets moved it may as well not exist. She is struggling to do the work necessary to produce an organized result, because (in the moment) folding laundry is more overwhelming.
There’s a book I highly recommend called ADHD and Adults (I forget the author), that’s really insightful about how ADHD manifests differently I adults than children. While looking for that book I found this page and the one titled Dirty Laundry gave me a chuckle given this post.
Also check out How to ADHD on YouTube. For anyone who’s just starting to understand ADHD, she does a good job helping people see it from a better perspective.
As a partner of someone with ADHD who’s developed coping strategies, helping her is a tall order. She has to want to work on something, it has to promise big rewards for small change, and she has to really want to do it. That’s a lot for someone with ADHD.
You can’t do anything, she has to choose to make changes.
As someone struggling with this for decades, I see what she’s doing. BTDT.
For me it’s always been if something gets moved it may as well not exist. She is struggling to do the work necessary to produce an organized result, because (in the moment) folding laundry is more overwhelming.
There’s a book I highly recommend called ADHD and Adults (I forget the author), that’s really insightful about how ADHD manifests differently I adults than children. While looking for that book I found this page and the one titled Dirty Laundry gave me a chuckle given this post.
Also check out How to ADHD on YouTube. For anyone who’s just starting to understand ADHD, she does a good job helping people see it from a better perspective.
As a partner of someone with ADHD who’s developed coping strategies, helping her is a tall order. She has to want to work on something, it has to promise big rewards for small change, and she has to really want to do it. That’s a lot for someone with ADHD.