20, trying to figure life out . doing trading, learning dispatching, studying too, its a lot at once. feel like im always in grind mode and forgot how to just enjoy stuff. currently im financially dependent on my parents…

had some bad losses in trading lately, took a short break and now trying to actually fix my risk management before going back in

if you’re older and already been through your 20s, what do you wish someone told you back then? like what actually mattered vs what you thought mattered at the time

also anyone here into manifestation/law of attraction, does it actually work for you? not asking to like wish for money lol, more curious how you actually get into a good headspace and stay there day to day

any advice helps, thanks for reading

[like attracting money , travel etc ]

  • shittydwarf@piefed.caEnglish
    71·
    20 hours ago

    I wish someone had told me index funds only, forget trading, just grind compound interest for decades.

    Also: lift barbells, floss, read more doom-scroll less.

    • Gordon Calhoun@lemmy.world
      22·
      19 hours ago

      I was going to say something, but this nailed it. Seriously, index funds. Trading is just gambling, not investing. The index funds I tend to recommend are super boring: 60/40 split between VT and BNDW. The ones I actually use are even more super boring: 40% VTV, 20% VXUS, 40% BNDW. Boring, but (as) reliable (as can be hoped for).

      But I can’t resist saying more. Focus more on self improvement/learning activities and hobbies that bring you joy than seeking validation from others. Finding something you enjoy doing, mastering it, building a network of hobby peers, will lead to validation from within as well as organic respect from others. Try to find ways to volunteer your time, labor, and skill in ways that helps others at or below your degree of fortune. A happy community breeds happy individuals, who create a happy community.

    • MrShankles@reddthat.com
      4·
      16 hours ago

      Floss! Expandable floss!

      It made me like flossing. Now I’ve gone from never flossing most of my life; to a waterpik monthly (because I was trying to be better); to “waterpik-rinse” quick, followed by this floss maybe twice a week or more. I still brush my teeth like twice a day (usually), but I’m talking about the joys of flossing

      I have narrow teeth and regular floss shreds… which makes me avoidant of flossing because of sensory stuff

      This expandable floss stuff (there’s plenty brands), it still shreds and sometimes worse… but it doesn’t bother me as much? It’s easier to use somehow?

      Idk, I sound like a shill for that shit, buuuut… It got me flossing. And now I use my waterpik like every day. My teeth have never been cleaner, and I like doing it… fucking awesome

      • shittydwarf@piefed.caEnglish
        3·
        15 hours ago

        I’m a waterpik slut, anytime I eat something I immediately crave the waterpik to clean out the gums. Life changing

        • MrShankles@reddthat.com
          2·
          15 hours ago

          Yes! It becomes a healthy obsession? Lol, idk I think the waterpik was like a gateway drug for flossing, but then flossing (with floss I like) reinforced using the waterpik?

          Between-the-teeth-clean… I can’t un-notice it now. Life changing indeed

          • Tollana1234567@lemmy.today
            1·
            8 hours ago

            it helps blast food out between the teeth, that flossing cant get. its also primes it so flossing is easier, because the wider glides the floss easier.