Terms like “transgender” [T], trans-masculine [TM] or trans-feminine [TF] are equally as informative but not unpleasant and dysphoric as “male-to-female” and “female-to-male”, which by many people are and will be viewed negatively.

Since posting and sexting is supposed to be about about fun and pleasure, I suggest changing the current rules to make space more inviting and accepting for different people. (:

Due to the mod request, I am personally fine with changing my gender tags ([F] (trans)) to [NB] for the time being and abstain from further posting as I’m principally opposed to refering to myself as “male to female” instead of “trans-feminine” or simply “transgender woman”. There is no need to introduce each post with implication of being “half a man” or “formerly a man” and the like.

It’s not that I am deeply offended or pretentious, but rather not taking pleasure from being grouped together with men [M] whenever I want to post something sexy.

P.S. I was otherwise very happy with my experience and enjoyed all the posts, comments and interactions (; <3

Cheers

  • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
    22·
    8 days ago

    I’m not interested in neogenitals, either looking at them or interacting with them.

    To put it impolitely, what I want from my porn (and the [F] filter) is sexy, breedable females. Any variety of MTF is not that. FTM is that, except maybe after phalloplasty, I don’t know the details on that.

    I’m not going to claim to have an enlightened dick. It wants what it wants

    • NyxAiri@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
      3·
      8 days ago

      Would you like to also verify which women are fertile and breedable before they post porn? Should infertile men without both functional testicles be excluded from [M] tag?

      Trans bodies on hormones or post- op usually smell and feel to the touch like their cisgender counterparts. Apparently even some doctors can’t differentiate genitals from neogenitals.

      Clearly fertility is not the main reason these tags exist. 😝 Yes I’m all for separate [T] gender tags but it doesn’t have anything to do with fertility or breedability.

      • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
        12·
        8 days ago

        I can’t speak for everyone, though I suspect I’m the average viewer of the [F] filter. For me, it’s 100% about breedability. Hormones and surgery can’t change what matters. An infertile woman still has the equipment, even if some of it’s faulty. No comment on [M], it’s not my interest.

        I know this isn’t what some people want to hear, but that’s how sexual attraction works for me, and likely most viewers of the [F] tag. Sorry, but it is what it is.

        • FluyOnTheWall@fedinsfw.appEnglish
          4·
          7 days ago

          As a viewer of the F tag, I’m fairly certain you are wrong about most of “us”.

          To me, what’s attractive about a person or their post is the thought of what I might want to do with them and/or they with me. Those fantasies almost never feature getting someone pregnant. More likely they feature the opposite, actually. In general, I feel like most people are here for the process, not the potential result. ^^

    • FluyOnTheWall@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      2·
      7 days ago

      Why not put it politely?

      I respect your kinks, but I’m not sure a wide-ranging subreddit like gonewild is the best place to get your fix - even on the F tag.

      • NyxAiri@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
        3·
        7 days ago

        It can’t be said politely because it’s pure sexism concealed as a kink. Women can be attractive in so many ways that do not involve “breedability” but some people can’t comprehend it - and it makes one wonder if they actually like women 😅

        Edit: I checked and it’s a transphobic troll account made 2 days ago solely to keep posting these comments under my posts so there is no point engaging further as the issue has already been discussed.

        • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
          12·
          7 days ago

          Consider “breedable” to be imperfect shorthand that doesn’t capture the entirety of sexual attraction, but provides a simple baseline for using the [F] tag.

          There’s plenty of other tags to use, or !transgonewild@fedinsfw.app

          EDIT: In response to your edit, asking a question and getting an answer you don’t like isn’t transphobia, or trolling. I don’t “keep” doing anything under your posts, and only engaged directly with you in this single post, after you engaged with me.

      • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
        12·
        7 days ago

        How would you put that politely?

        I respect your desire for it just be a kink or a fix. I think this community is bigger than just your preferences, however.