cross-posted from: https://lemmy.today/post/63107763
I’m looking for something like Snikket or Prosody, but kids-oriented. I DON’T want my <10 daughter using Meta Messenger Kids! I’ll tell my friends to setup for their kids, too. I’d have no access to anything, so it’s secure (mom and dad not snooping per se), but the downside is minimal parental controls. Though, no one to really add either.
I’ll host or pay for it, IDC. It doesn’t seem like there is much out there either.
JusTalk seemed nice when I found out but apparently China owned and so no more secure. I/we need better options!
You’re never going to get the other parents to fool with your messaging platform. Not because they don’t trust you, but because they simply can’t be bothered to. Normies have a bristling aversion to doing something different than they always have when it comes to apps/etc. I tried to get my friends on Signal, and gave up because they just wouldn’t.
Plus, the kids want to use what everyone else uses, creeps and trolls included.
Seriously I couldn’t even get my wife to use a third party messaging app.
Thank God iPhones finally support…RCS.
The problem is, if we fold on our kids, we are essentially just handing them over to meta. Forever. They will end up being as locked in and helpless as every other adult.
Facebook is the new smoking. Even worse. Because parents are now expected to put the cigarettes into their kids mouths themselves…and if they don’t? Your kid will be a social leper, and have the most miserable adolescence available.
Parents can’t even feign ignorance. We know how bad social media is…but we’re addicted. They’ve got dopamine on a treble hook right into our brains and they know it.
That’s not even teenage hyperbole. Like that’s legit what life is like for kids. No socials? May as well not exist.
Man I hope you’re wrong. Is there an aspect of modern life that isn’t absolutely fucked? Social media is toxic AF. Lemmy is the extent of what i can tolerate. I was a slave to FB for almost 20 years— I had a meme name and profile pic, but most folks knew who I was. I looked at my comments and post history and realized I was definitely on some watch lists, so I nuked the whole thing and haven’t been back. I miss marketplace - I have a bunch of junk I need to sell, but I don’t want to make a legit profile just on the chance I’ll get lured back in. I quit smoking the same way - got mad about it and stopped.
My oldest is 10 and he wants to be able to chat with his friends.
I sure as hell don’t want him on Facebook, yet that’s the most kid tested/mother approved out there.
I highly doubt my kid will have good luck getting his friends to join my private self-hosted matrix server.
Maybe one or two friends because their dads are my nerd friends. But that’s about it.
@unitedwithme @horus_son_of_isis This is an issue… But its also why I’m interested in how Delta chat works. I have been surprised though that some of the most ‘normy’ people I know have started sharing posts about not wanting to download apps to do this and that and to not be tracked by the government - the online controls in the UK are I think making some people that I wasn’t expecting to start thinking.