I know lemmy is titled to the left, so most probable answer is going to be no, managers are our enemy, but hear me out.

I always thought like this: I’m there to work and earn money, not to make friends, not to fake a friendship with any manager. If they fire me, no manager is going to ask me how I’m holding up or what my plans for the future are. What may look like a friendship is all fake.

There is, however, a manager where I work at that everybody agrees she is friendly and goes the extra mile to help employees. When I say everybody I mean that literally, none of the coworkers I asked said anything remotely bad about this person. At my company there are other managers everybody agrees are narcissistic morons and everyone hates them.

I had an argument with this manager everyone likes and after thinking about it, it was mostly my fault we raised our voices. She raised her voice first but because I wasn’t listening to her because she triggered me.

I feel bad about it and I can’t believe I’m writing this, but I’d like to have a private conversation with her to apologize and explain why she triggered me. She also does typical things any manager does that I find very unfair that I want to explain so she maybe stops it.

Is being honest and having such a conversation a stupid idea?

  • FreedomAdvocateEnglish
    17·
    2 days ago

    I always thought like this: I’m there to work and earn money, not to make friends, not to fake a friendship with any manager. If they fire me, no manager is going to ask me how I’m holding up or what my plans for the future are. What may look like a friendship is all fake.

    So many people on here have this mindset, and they’re usually also the ones constantly complaining about how everyone is mean and toxic and excludes them etc lol. Why would you not just treat coworkers as normal people, and if you become friends you become friends? You spend a huge amount of time with your coworkers so it makes no sense to have this attitude. It also assumes that other people have the same attitude of actively not wanting to make relationships.

    Have the conversation. Be an actual human being.

    • Em Adespoton@lemmy.ca
      9·
      2 days ago

      if they fire me, no manager is going to ask me how I’m holding up or what my plans for the future are.

      One of my coworkers fell victim to downsizing. My manager made sure to stay in touch with them to see how they were holding up, and shared with the rest of us (with permission) when they figured out what they were doing next.

      The company also provides a year of psychiatric support (third party) for any employee who falls victim to downsizing.

      It’s one of those reasons that that’s where I work (still).