Preface
I’m not trying to call out the mod action of removing my post from the comm so much as I’m calling out the complete lack of mod action leading to the comm becoming shit and having the current top post by scaled, hot, and active being a post that explicitly targets another lemmy user.
That out of the way… !mildlyinfuriating@lemmy.world has clearly been slipping from the purpose of the comm for a while now. Most of the posts are actually infuriating and/or political. I understand that what qualifies as either of those can be different for different people, but I feel most of this shit clearly isn’t mundane or simple enough to fall under the label of just mildly infuriating.
Here's some examples from the first page right now, sorted by scaled.
While I could have sworn the sidebar had a no politics rule, it doesn’t at the time of me writing this up, so politics are arguably acceptable, although I personally feel these all clearly don’t match the theme of the community, violating Rule 7.
Sidebar, and expanded rule 7
A few other posts have been made calling this out.
Mod harder and [META] What actually constitutes “mildly infuriating” content?
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Beyond all that mess, we have what was the final straw for me.
Rule 1 (and less so 5), and the current top post by scaled, hot, and active.
I cannot accept that a post to mildly infuriating that targets a specific user while not even removing their username is respectful, and I personally consider it harassment (while it may not violate rule 5 as there is no call to action). Removing the username is usually the bare minimum even in the fucking reddit brigading subs, for plausible deniability.
And regardless of whatever arguments can be had about interpretations of the community’s specific rules, it’s a dick move. Just block the guy. It reminds me of the god awful reddit dogpiling and brigading. I don’t want any of that to come to lemmy.
So I reported it, then saw the recent posts asking mods for action that got no response. I then looked at the mods.
- LillianVS@lemmy.world (Aer) has not been active in two years.
- STRIKINGdebate2@lemmy.world (Striker) has not been active in one year.
- Tenthrow@lemmy.world had not appeared to be active for six days at the time I reported the post, but upon checking the community mod log was likely active two days before (assuming that the other two wouldn’t be just lurking and modding for over a year).
So I did something dumb as hell. Roughly an hour after I reported it, I made my own post (now removed from the comm). I find people who make call out posts about others, and the absentee mods allowing it, mildly infuriating. Yeah, childish as shit. What’s done is done.
Modlog:
Removed for “doesn’t fit community”, but what do you folks think? Does it really not fit when the top post is what it is? Personally I think both should be gone, lest that comm descend further into shit.
Either way, now that I have this yell into the void out of me, I’m blocking the comm. Maybe I should have made my post in actually infuriating? (kidding)
makes sense. ableist shitstain using ableist language comes from 4chan. shocking.
Oh no, in literally quoting the name of an ancient 4chan meme I used a no-no word! This is some of the most pathetic crybullying I’ve seen in ages.
What was that you were saying in comments on this very post about the worst thing about fedi was how everyone is expected to be nice to each other? The claims that I had my feelings hurt? All the shitslinging you’ve been doing up and down the comments of this post?
And now you cry ableism about the literal name of a meme? This is absurd, and as I already said, I prefer my clown shows to be funny.
Whatever issues you have in that head of yours, it’s past the point where responding to you helps make things clear for anyone else, and I’m no longer having any fun with it. I just feel bad for you. I was serious in my earlier comment about hoping that you get through whatever has you so damn aggro in these comments, and I still hope that.
I’ll miss the rare post from tankiejerk, and I definitely will miss lotrmemes, but I won’t miss these poor excuses for comments, and I’m not sticking around to see if you manage to get your shit together. Blocking you and any comms you moderate. Guess you won pigeon chess.
Edit: bored while taking a shit, needed a break from PowerShell scripting and Youtube. was curious about a comment this far into a subthread on a day old post getting downvotes from more than the shmuck I pissed off
Using both your accounts to downvote my comment? Naughty naughty. And a good reminder to make sure I’ve got both of them blocked.
Double edit: Yeah, they did that for all my comments in this thread. I don’t care about the imaginary internet points, it’s a matter of basic ettiquette on sites with voting. Any and all sympathy I had for this shitstain is gone.
Well that explains where the single secondary upvote their comments have is coming from.
interesting how right after his comment, somebody doxed me, posted a picture of my family and my address, as well as my name to one of my comms in a pathetic attempt to threaten my family. shoutout to the SJW admins for immediately banning the dude, although I was going to leave it up for longer so that everyone could see how wizardbeard handles conflict on the internet when his feeling are hurt.
that’s some real small dick energy tho, wizardbeard.
so because I downvoted you twice, does that make up for you threatening my family by posting a picture of them to my comm and doxxing me? that’s some small dick energy right there. what kind of weasel threatens little kids? you got some real issues to deal with if your first reaction to an internet fight is to start looking up who people are in real life in a vain attempt to intimidate them.
have another downvote, you piece of shit.
Excuse me what the fuck? I didn’t do any of that you absolute psycho. Go take your meds.
I’d been content to let you stew in your suckiness. This is beyond the pale now. I’m reporting you.
Edit: I had a full response typed up and hit cancel instead of preview. Fucking hell. It was beautiful. So here’s the cliff notes. Please pardon the shortness.
TL;DR- You’re full of shit. You saw an opportunity to try and use my admission of using 4chan as a stain against me, hoping it would make people just believe at face value that I would doxx you for some reason.
I think this is one of the first times I’ve even interacted with your dumb ass. There’s no reason for me to even imagine doxxing you.
You didn’t post any receipts (of the modlogs, I’m not telling you to post the supposed doxx before you start accusing me of more insanity), so I scoured things myself. Timelines don’t add up.
Seriously dumb/obsessive levels of analysis over an absolutely absurd claim against my character. You've been warned.
SJW modlogs, filtered by ban from site, have only one ban for doxxing in the past 3 days: barneyboy. Here are the full SJW modlogs against that user.
So let’s lay out a timeline:
11/19 at 8:27PM, GMT -5: I’ve already stated or implied I’m east coast US on this, my only lemmy account besides one on lemmynsfw that I haven’t used since I made it. Go wild knowing my local time zone. All further times I state are in that zone. Anyway, you make your “YDI” comment and say I’m fishing for sympathy despite two statements to the contrary in my post.
11/20 at 1:01AM: I respond, calling out your failure in reading comprehension.
8:11AM: You made the “aww, precious” comment.
11:04AM: First modlog for barneyboy. Removal of a post with a title that definitely sounds like some pathetic asshole doxxing someone.
12:53PM: I respond to your weak bait. Why the fuck would someone who doxxed you continue the conversation like nothing happened, especially if it was caught and removed 2 hours earlier? Because I didn’t doxx you dipshit.
12:57PM: You call me ableist for using the literal name of an ancient 4chan meme. Still no mention of the doxx that was removed two hours ago now.
1:22PM: I reply, letting you and the crowd know I’m done and blocking you. Still carrying on like nothing happened, because you know, I didn’t doxx you. Blocked your anarchist.nexus account and the comms it moderates.
1:28PM: You downvote my comment about blocking you using your primary account on anarchist.nexus. Cope, seethe, mald.
1:34PM: Concern trolling comment
2:50-ish PM: You switch over to your lemmy.dbzer0.com account and downvote all my comments on this post in one go. Here’s the lemvotes screenshot for the post where I said I’d block you, but lemvotes is available for anyone to check the other ones themselves. Still no mention of the doxx which was discovered/removed almost 4 hours ago. That’s a little weird on your part. I could see being worried so you wouldn’t engage at all, but going out of your way to vote manipulate and also not call it out? Weird weird weird.
4:05-ish PM: Taking a break from endless PowerShell scripting, I browse lemmy on the shitter. Surprised to see more downvotes than just from pissing off you. Still pooping, toss my comment permalink in lemvotes. See you hit it with both your anarchist.nexus and lemmy.dbzer0.com accounts. Decide to pop a cheeky edit in calling it out. I’m not one to miss a good opportunity to highlight someone being a douche while trying to claim some sort of high ground. 5 hours past the doxx’s removal.
4:11PM: Tossed my other comments from the thread with more than one downvote at lemvotes. You’ve double downvoted all of them. Clear vote manipulation, can’t even claim some weaksauce shit we see in this comm of “how am I supposed to remember”? Make another edit to my “I’m blocking you” post.
4:13PM: Think through my frustration at your dumb ass and removed the r-slur from my post calling your shit weak. Not looking to use ableist language, but I sure as hell am too obstinate to remove it for your dumb ass when you’re clear as day only saying it to stir shit.
4:30PM: Per the modlog, the post is restored and removed by SJW admins to try and force removal to federate.
11:18PM: 12 fucking hours past the initial removal of your supposed doxx, you finally make a comment about it.
This is where it all breaks down spectacularly. Quotes from the last linked comment.
11:04AM doesn’t remotely line up with any of my comments.
It can’t be that it was posted up earlier and it took them time to remove it because…
So… they took it down pretty quick is what you’re saying? Maybe not, but then this next part makes no sense
So then why didn’t you say anything about it until 12 fucking hours later, after numerous continued back and forth between us?
I’ll spell it out for the peanut gallery: Because he’s full of it. I’ve had the misfortune to know people like this before.
The absolute best explanation you could give for this is that they took it down before you saw it, they sent it to you afterwards to confirm, and your line about wanting to leave it up is just bravado.
But here’s the kicker: We still haven’t even confirmed if barneyboy matches what he’s claiming. I can’t figure out how to get to community specific modlogs to see where this post was removed from.
His quokk.au account and his anarchist.nexus account link to a keyoxide page that lists three different lemmy accounts. His comms can be found from there.
Also, I fully expect an attempt to hand wave away all the incongruous behavior by pulling out something like this response he got to one of his other aggro comments on this post.
Most of all, his reply to another comment in the thread here:
Screenshots of crypt and my little sub-thread, in case he tries to edit this shit away.
Why the fuck do I care so much about this?
To head off the kafkatrap of “you spent so much effort denying it so you must be guilty!” Got trauma from my parents on that wonderful chestnut and I won’t stand for it.
As far as the obsessive timeline…
I’ve talked some in previous comments on this account about my worst ex. I lost five years of my life to her. She always had some story about how the world or other people were out for her at no fault of her own. Always some way to twist herself into the poor victim. In retrospect, she saw herself as highly intelligent and the rest of the world as dumb rubes she could get to dance to whatever tune she wanted. Honest to god gaslit me. Not “lied to me”, gaslit me. I had a breakdown where I didn’t feel that I could believe my own memory, and a decade and a half later I still tend to accept others’ recollections over my own.
But in retrospect? Every single one of her stories crumbled under a medium amount of questioning. Basic shit like timelines, or “people don’t tend to work that way”. Situations where you could give her the biggest benefit of the doubt at every step of walking back through it, and it still wouldn’t add up.
People like that don’t get away with it because others are stupid, but because others aren’t obsessive. They have too much other shit to do than call out where things seem off.
My trauma from her, which I’ve been somehow avoided treatment for over a decade, makes it very hard for me to just let go and not start walking through it in my head.
It takes a hell of a lot less effort to tell a lie than to disprove it. I might be sad or pathetic for this sort of shit. Crypto may have “won” by taking so much of my time and awareness. But I’m right, and he’s an asshole. That matters to me, and that’s enough for me.
I didn’t doxx him, and his story makes no fucking sense.
Beyond all that, I’m beyond fucking done with this. I’ll leave it up to the admins. As I said, I already reported this. If I still feel strongly about it after Thanksgiving I might make this into its own post, but I doubt it. I’ll just be happy to see this shit gone.
I mean, I don’t mind you being not nice, but using words like that casually might not ingratiate you with the neurodivergent community on db0. that’s a you problem, though.