i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).
i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.
i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???
i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.
Just ignore the labels. They’re one-size-fits-all ideas made up by strangers at some point, so you’ll never be able to properly wear any of them. They’re ultimately pointless things anyway.
Labels help organize descriptions. They’re not always one-size-fits-all concepts. They’re only treated that way because people are fucking stupid in general.
It is as easy to figure out who you are by: Looking up more than one source on a label. Studying yourself and your experiences and then seeing if that aligns with said label. Stick with it, but stick with it by YOUR findings, stop contrasting and comparing with OTHER people’s findings because they probably don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about and only want to feel special.
If we had no labels, then there’s already people running around probably believing that they can be completely bisexual and only, strictly being attracted to one sex that they believe is slightly a fourth gender somewhere. Because again, people are fucking stupid.