Hi all I need a sanity check.
Diagnosed ADD as a kid, struggled to pay attention and care in school, was on concerta for a decade. Parents would up my dose if my grades went down and expected me to grow out of ADD once I turned 18.
That didn’t happen and my life fell apart and I vowed to never take medication again because I saw it as a conspiracy to sell pills and get people messed up in the head.
After 15 years of emotional dysregulation and crippling anxiety I spoke to a dr and tried an extended release amphetamine yesterday.
My whole world changed. No emotional noise, no background feeling of “I’m a bad person and I don’t know why”, social anxiety is gone (was able to respond to all my messages and even make a phone call AND talk to a cashier!!!). Was able to do tasks I left behind because the anxiety to start was too bad.
I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to now. My self confidence is up. I don’t dread things. I woke up calm. My mind used to be a firehose of thoughts and emotions all at max level. Now it’s calm and orderly and logical.
This seems too good to be true. I didn’t even know existence could be like this. Is this normal? Is it the honeymoon phase? Is it just because I’m taking an amphetamine? I’m beside myself and life feels like I’ve got all the cheat codes now. It seems too good to be true.
The grief is honestly one of my biggest fears with starting medication. I don’t want to face that my life could have been so much better.
Of course that’s not a good reason to not seek help logically, but damn if those built in guilt trips and shame aren’t incredibly strong.
Don’t feel grief for this time a year from now.
The best time to plant a tree is 30 year ago, the second best time is right now.
I did it, I was at peace with the grief after maybe a week. Or at least it wasn’t my biggest problem any more.
Yeah I’m in the process of finding a psychiatrist now. It’s just been difficult fighting my own built-in reluctance.
Thanks :)
My issue was more “getting help with ADHD requires you to fight the effects of ADHD to get appointments and referrals”
In the UK it was impossible. In the Netherlands, the system is more caring.
Don’t let it hold you back, it’s worth it. Grief is a part of growth.
It does no good to look at what could have been. I was diagnosed well into adulthood and I could very easily spiral on the what ifs. Every previous possible me would not be the same me that I currently am so I only concern myself with what I do, not what some other person would do