Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity… Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I’m saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I’m very gratitude-heavy myself).
Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.
I obviously don’t know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.
Occasionally I’ll tell my wife thanks for marrying me. I’m a very gratitude-heavy sort of person. If I’m grateful, they’ll know it.
Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity… Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I’m saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I’m very gratitude-heavy myself).
Wait wait wait, hold on a second, are you explaining to me, how to interact with my own wife? The one I’ve been married to for ten years?
Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.
I obviously don’t know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.
Sounds like you’re not married to a psychopath. Congratulations!