I’ve noticed that if I say “I won’t do this anymore at all”, it doesn’t work. But if I say “I’ll only spend this much this month on sex workers, gambling, etc.” I’m able to mellow down. I’ve also noticed some people suggest that moderation doesn’t work and you should try to be as cold turkey as possible.
If you can moderate, it isn’t really an addiction. At least, not by the strict definition. If you use it more colloquially, sure.
But addiction is a compulsion that is acceded to, despite consequences, by the more common usage of the word. If you can resist the compulsion, then it hasn’t reached that level yet.
I mean, a lot of this kind of discussion depends on exactly how someone defines a term, right? Addiction has multiple usages, so there’s no single answer.
I’d say a good frame of reference would be that there’s a difference between dependency and addiction, with addiction being more defined by a lack of ability to resist compulsion. Dependence would be more along the lines of having the compulsion at all, be it to an external chemical or an internal factor. It kinda rolls together the more clinical definition with the looser versions.
Now, me? I’ve been full on addicted to nicotine by any usage of the term. Cold turkey wasn’t possible. Moderation was only possible short term. But, I’ve taken opiates off and on for years without developing a dependence at all, though that’s partially because I hate the damn things and only take them when my pain levels are out of control. Yay chronic pain?
I think that doesn’t really work for physical addictions. Even if you can easily stop using because your mind just works that way, if you used an addictive substance for long enough you’ll get withdrawal symptoms.