• ExtremeDullard@piefed.social
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    3 days ago

    When I came back home from the hospital after my amputation, my wife of 30 years told me she didn’t sign up for this, packed up her things and left.

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      This happens more than people want to admit, and it can be sudden after a period of support. Like someone gets cancer and their SO sticks by their side until it gets stage 4, things get really messy and hard, and suddenly they’re off starting a new life. My SO is a therapist and has seen it firsthand, it’s gruesome and cruel.

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        Motherfuckers starting second lives behind their spouses back and here I can’t find a fucking bridge partner.

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      Wow. Im sorry you encountered this.

      While thankfully I have had nothing amputated (yet… but im diabetic), ive noticed that each of several partners over the years has just been abominable at showing empathy.

      For example, if I tried to tell my current SO that im feeling a bit down she would absolutely get the shits with me and tell me how shitty her life is.

      Theres something about kicking a dog when its down that some people just cant restrain themselves.

      In hind sight, would it have been helpful for your partner to give you a few months to recover before leaving?

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      I mean it’s right there, “for riches and in health, till inconvenience do you part”.

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        Yeah, health. Not disease or amputation. It isn’t covered by the contract. You need the premium plan marriage package for that.

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      My best friend got cheated on and dumped after he got diagnosed with epilepsy. It took a year of fits (one in which he screwed up his back) to get the diagnosis, and it basically meant he had to abandon his career path of working in the police force as a detective and forensic analyst and switch to something different.

      It also doesn’t help that they both got sacked from a call centre whilst this was going on.

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      WOOF! What?! Holy fucking shit. I am sorry bro. THIRTY YEARS? No way. I’m sorry but I even find that a bit hard to believe.

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          Lol I’m an idiot… I’m my head he left… so was very confused why he took her things…😂😂😂

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          Nice of her to pack my things I guess but now I have to unpack them again. Kind of redundant if you ask me but it’s a nice gesture.