• sidelove@lemmy.world
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        3 days ago

        Geez, maybe it’s because I’m tired af and it’s the end of the day, but I’m really having trouble following the thread here. I shouldn’t have to type out my history, but I’m NOT unfamiliar with SA, nor with having sex with men/masc-types. Falling back on implied accusations of nonconsent/SA to win an argument where it wasn’t brought up until you typed it out is kinda scummy.

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          3 days ago

          I genuinely do not read where they are doing what you’re saying they’re doing. All they said was someone laying down and not putting effort into sex may have a history of trauma. Meanwhile, you and the other fella kinda were ridiculing people who do that…

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            3 days ago

            I’m going to copy my original comment:

            Not for nothing, but the tendency for people who get along purely by being conventionally attractive to starfish isn’t like, a secret. Lack of effort isn’t really a gendered thing.

            Where I very specifically narrow it down to vapid people who are in it for self-pleasure as opposed to mutual enjoyment.

            The acrobatic inception of the idea that we’re talking about people reliving trauma instead of just being emotionally checked out like the entire previous thread implied is what I take issue with, it’s some legitimately heinous fake ally shit to use that as a non-sequiter argument.

            And yes, implying that I or the guy before me continued on through a partner reliving trauma IS nonconsent which IS rape. You can’t imply one without implying the other.

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              lol I did not accuse you of rape. That’s insane levels of cope for being called out on defending a sexist comment.

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          Being nasty about women laying back and only offering their vaginas is worse than anything I’ve said.

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            3 days ago

            So you think that’s the level of effort a woman is supposed to put in, because she’s a woman and thus can’t be responsible for her actions? That’s incredibly sexist.

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              3 days ago

              Nah I think you’re nasty about women because you’re a pathetic man who can’t take accountability for his own actions.

              And you’re transphobic.