Think of everything you like being done to you apart from PIV. Chances are that men like that too when you do it to them.
A woman being actually active, showing what she wants, using her hands both to touch her partner, but also to show what she likes (e.g. putting her hand onto his hand while he’s doing something she likes and pushing/holding the hand there) is incredibly sexy.
Being touched/stimulated on everything that counts as erogenous zone is nice.
Think of anything that counts as foreplay with women. Chances are men like that too.
To put it differently: Think of having sex, and the only thing your partner does is touch your clit and PIV, no other body contact. There’s a lot missing, isn’t there?
Communication is really sexy too. If you want something, say so. If you like what’s happening, say so.
Show that you are alive, in the moment, and there with your partner, not just waiting for the time to tick away while thinking about laundry. (Even if that’s not what you are, that’s what your partner might think you are doing if you minimize reactions and participations, and that’s decidedly not sexy.)
It’s really not so much about that secret magic technique or something, just about really being present, trying to find out what your partner likes, being happy to participate and experiment.
That said, look up “frenulum orgasm” if you want to surprise your partner with a secret magic technique that they themselves might not even know. It’s the male equivalent to a clitoral orgasm, and many guys have never heard of it.
Great write up, thank you very much, I will study more.
Some things are harder to achieve in the moment without former practice, and even sexy talk is better trained in calmer settings, but life is messy and… people in general need less work and more time for themselves and each other.
Sex is a skill, and like any skill it takes research and practice.
But I’m sure there aren’t many men out there who wouldn’t want their partner to practice on them, so go for it!
In the beginning I used to always plan beforehand to have a couple cool things I could do, maybe something to surprise her with or something. And backup plans in case the original idea didn’t work out as expected.
That (a) everyone educates themselves on how their body and the body of their partner(s) work, (b) that everyone educates themselves on how they can pleasure their partners (and optionally themselves too, why not) and © that everyone actively participates and contributes when they are having sex, all of that irrespective of gender or sex.
It’s ok to sometimes lay back and enjoy your partner running the show, but if that’s the case every single time, then you are doing something wrong.
I meant more like what do men like other than PIV or blowjobs. Just fishing for ideas.
Ah, gotcha.
Think of everything you like being done to you apart from PIV. Chances are that men like that too when you do it to them.
A woman being actually active, showing what she wants, using her hands both to touch her partner, but also to show what she likes (e.g. putting her hand onto his hand while he’s doing something she likes and pushing/holding the hand there) is incredibly sexy.
Being touched/stimulated on everything that counts as erogenous zone is nice.
Think of anything that counts as foreplay with women. Chances are men like that too.
To put it differently: Think of having sex, and the only thing your partner does is touch your clit and PIV, no other body contact. There’s a lot missing, isn’t there?
Communication is really sexy too. If you want something, say so. If you like what’s happening, say so.
Show that you are alive, in the moment, and there with your partner, not just waiting for the time to tick away while thinking about laundry. (Even if that’s not what you are, that’s what your partner might think you are doing if you minimize reactions and participations, and that’s decidedly not sexy.)
It’s really not so much about that secret magic technique or something, just about really being present, trying to find out what your partner likes, being happy to participate and experiment.
That said, look up “frenulum orgasm” if you want to surprise your partner with a secret magic technique that they themselves might not even know. It’s the male equivalent to a clitoral orgasm, and many guys have never heard of it.
Great write up, thank you very much, I will study more.
Some things are harder to achieve in the moment without former practice, and even sexy talk is better trained in calmer settings, but life is messy and… people in general need less work and more time for themselves and each other.
Sex is a skill, and like any skill it takes research and practice.
But I’m sure there aren’t many men out there who wouldn’t want their partner to practice on them, so go for it!
In the beginning I used to always plan beforehand to have a couple cool things I could do, maybe something to surprise her with or something. And backup plans in case the original idea didn’t work out as expected.
After a while it becomes really easy.
And yet you targeted women specifically.
“Targeted”. Do you even read what you write? Anyway, you are noise, and boring noise at that. And thus blocked.