I love this response. It feels like justice to treat someone the way they’ve treated you, but ultimately that doesn’t create the kind of relationships and society that I want to live in.
Of course it’s a case-by-case thing, because everything is nuanced and no one knows what OP’s relationship has been like and what kind of person either of them are. There are circumstances in which I would agree to help because I feel like I can and I want to create “good karma.” There are circumstances under which I would say exactly what you suggested. And there are circumstances under which I would not respond at all.
In other words OP, there’s no right or wrong answer here. Do whatever is most consistent with the kind of person you want to be, factored in with not making yourself vulnerable to potential abuse.
Exactly. I try to be fairly neutral in situations like this. Being nice would be to feel guilted into it and give in, but that will only tell them that it worked, it won’t renew the friendship. Being negative will only convince them you’re an asshole. A clear answer here the truth, it’s not mean, it’s not nice, just right in the middle.
I love this response. It feels like justice to treat someone the way they’ve treated you, but ultimately that doesn’t create the kind of relationships and society that I want to live in.
Of course it’s a case-by-case thing, because everything is nuanced and no one knows what OP’s relationship has been like and what kind of person either of them are. There are circumstances in which I would agree to help because I feel like I can and I want to create “good karma.” There are circumstances under which I would say exactly what you suggested. And there are circumstances under which I would not respond at all.
In other words OP, there’s no right or wrong answer here. Do whatever is most consistent with the kind of person you want to be, factored in with not making yourself vulnerable to potential abuse.
Exactly. I try to be fairly neutral in situations like this. Being nice would be to feel guilted into it and give in, but that will only tell them that it worked, it won’t renew the friendship. Being negative will only convince them you’re an asshole. A clear answer here the truth, it’s not mean, it’s not nice, just right in the middle.