A year ago I broke up with my gf of 8 years after finding out she cheated on me and had been for a long time.
I quite literally have zero friends remaining at this point. Every single mutual friend has stayed friends with her and completely ghosted me. I can only suspect I’ve been slandered and that’s why nobody wants anything to do with me anymore. I tried going to local shows as that was my community but it’s completely sucked the fun out of things because it’s a small city and there’s always eyes on me from different corners of the room like I’ve done something wrong and I don’t feel welcome anymore. So I’ve just stopped attending concerts which used to be my safe space. Standing by myself watching the band while people stare a hole in the side of my head isn’t exactly enjoyable.
My lived experience has now taught me that 90% of people are cheaters, liars, and thieves, and while I know that’s not reality, it’s fundamentally changed the way I approach friendships. I don’t open up to people anymore because I don’t trust anyone anymore.
I don’t think or care about my ex but the friends who ghosted me still cause daily intrusive thoughts. I don’t know why I’ve been abandoned. No closure and no way to defend myself. I never expected how much more it hurts to lose friends than it does to lose a partner.
I miss my friends but they’ve proven they don’t care about me so when they inevitably reach out to me there’s no way I’ll be able to forgive.
Probably I need to go back to therapy again but just curious if anyone has experienced similar.
Being accused of something is fully different than actually having done it. Just because somebody accuses you of something doesn’t mean it’s automatic that you are guilty. In the comment that was linked, he literally said somebody falsely accused him. So I have to ask you how do you know that he’s actually guilty?
Thank you man. I am honestly surprised and hurt at some of the reactions here. Even strangers on an anonymous forum have immediately demonized me over this. I’m glad I posted this thread because it proves my suspicion - nobody will ever believe me and that’s just the reality of my life now. Even showing people concrete evidence of her trying to kill me isn’t going to change anything so I guess I just have to somehow own it
Why would I write that comment if I was guilty? It was an obvious cry for help lmao and now I’m embarrassed I said it
because many folks are incredibly sexist. and they think their sexism is ‘good’. because women are always victims in their minds, and if a man is ever a victim, well he deserved it because of ‘systematic oppression’.
just ignore them.
and further, those who haven’t dealt with manipulative women, or false rape accusations, love to pretend they don’t exist. because it would break their fantasy world where all women are angelic and men are demonic. instead of men and women both being people capable of shitty things.
Just the other day I was having an argument with some cuckoo here on lemmy about how they believed all rape accusations should be considered guilty until proven otherwise. It’s insane how stupid some people get.
it makes people feel powerful to take absolutist stances like this.
and weak people love to feel powerful. you typically won’t see such stances coming from productive happy people