Humans evolved to pay close attention to danger, but today that instinct is being overwhelmed by an endless supply of bad news from around the world. Researchers say the answer isn’t to stop following current events—it’s to build healthier habits around how, when, and where we get our news.
My comment was a mix of general advice and personal experience. For me, my brain doesn’t let me look away, or at least trying to “check out” doesn’t help.
I’d say the general point is about not isolating yourself. Whether you’re staying on top of news or not. The groups or social networks you find don’t have to be directly helping other people that come from that “bad news”. They can just be about helping yourself. Whether that’s a mutual aid group or even just a group of people that go hiking together.
We’re all at our own stage of life. Maybe that means you do gotta “check out” for some time to recover. But, that should only ever be a “step” in your personal journey. It should never be the destination. Isolating oneself is never a place to see as the solution.
It doesn’t have to be “what you’re about” either. It can be once a week, once a month, etc.
Also, you CAN break down. When you do, if you’re in the right group for you, those people will understand. They will feel exactly as you do. You will be met with empathy not judgement.
I know, because I feel that same way. When you’ve been holding in sadness for so long, that even thinking about the smallest amount of empathy from someone else makes you lose it. That’s ok. It’s ok to show others how hard it is. We’re all just trying to hold it in because we feel alone. We aren’t.
I just don’t know how to find that right group. I’ve been going out for so many years, trying again and again and never managed to. There’s always like 1 (or whatever small fraction) person out of the whole group I get along with and the rest are varying amounts of shitty.
But thank you for your words and trying :)
Sounds like me. I usually hate group settings and do better one on one. Think it’s my ADHD or whatever range of the spectrum I’m on. If you’re in the Seattle area we can get a coffee sometime lol
Wrong continent, but I appreciate the offer :)
Can we both end our relationships and be together instead? This really speaks to my soul.
I’ve had so many partners look away permanently. They make me turn off ad-free news and put on shitty radio with ads full of propaganda.
I try to talk about society issues, and they won’t let me. They prefer to scroll feel-good Instagram propaganda bullshit.