• piranhaconda@mander.xyz
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    Yea I eventually learned how to not get offended by the generalizations, prior to the diagnosis, but the whole “taking it literally” thing took a bit to get over

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      Honestly it still bothers me. We are told that generalizations and stereotypes are bad, but when they’re directed and white people or men, they’re okay.

      Listen, I’m not a #NotAllMen type or anything, but it is a frustrating double standard for those of us who’ve grown up knowing not to stereotype or generalize to then get stereotyped and generalized and be told we can’t complain about it.

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        If you’re not the type to generalize or stereotype, then the comic is not talking about you.

        It’s not generalizing all men. Just men whose egos are fragile enough to be offended when this type of interaction is pointed out.

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          I’m aware. Like I said, I’m not a #NotAllMen type. I’m not offended by this comic in the slightest. I laughed at it.

          I mean that generally, the double standard can be frustrating. It’s generally okay on the Internet to shit on men and then say, “yeah but I don’t mean you, you’re one of the good ones.” But I’ve learned my whole life that that’s a shitty thing to do.

          I’m not offended, I’m not upset.

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            This comic is not shitting on men. It’s shitting on men who have fragile egos.

            I didn’t claim you were upset or offended.

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              I’m not sure why you keep talking about the comic. I wasn’t responding to the comic. I was responding to someone talking more broadly about generalization of men. The “honestly it bothers me” didn’t refer to the comic.

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                The comic is giving context for the conversations here, apologies if I misunderstood. Just wanted to make it clear for the many folk here that have missed that the comic is not generalizing all men.

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          It definitely is generalizing all men by the sentence structure, sometimes “men’s”, which men? Oh just “men” in general.

          But otherwise yeah, 100% “some” men’s egos are fragile. Its generalized because it doesn’t make a case to isolate a sub-group of men.

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            Which men? Men whose egos are fragile. You can acknowledge that some men are like that without being one of them yourself.