I found out my abusive father wasn’t even my father when i was a sophmore. I was always treated as a black sheep by the “family” and didn’t know why until that moment. What she didn’t tell me was she was leaving, and she left me with him. I’ve only seen her twice and i haven’t seen him once since 2013. .
I sold drugs in highschool but still felt alone the entire time. Still dealing with all that shit in my thirties lmao
Healing is available. It’s a slow, often painful, messy (non-linear process). But it’s doable. The alternative is stay sick, get sicker, perpetuate the cycle. You’re willing to talk about it a little, so it indicates the wounds haven’t yet calcified, and that’s a good sign. I encourage you to look into it, and various healing modalities.
In fact, I recommended starting with the basics, and exploring what help may be available to you until you standardize. But I have full faith in your capability to manage the journey.
I found out my abusive father wasn’t even my father when i was a sophmore. I was always treated as a black sheep by the “family” and didn’t know why until that moment. What she didn’t tell me was she was leaving, and she left me with him. I’ve only seen her twice and i haven’t seen him once since 2013. .
I sold drugs in highschool but still felt alone the entire time. Still dealing with all that shit in my thirties lmao
I suspect it’s more common than you may imagine. Fwiw, blood children are also treated this way.
https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/6-dysfunctional-family-roles-their-characteristics
Healing is available. It’s a slow, often painful, messy (non-linear process). But it’s doable. The alternative is stay sick, get sicker, perpetuate the cycle. You’re willing to talk about it a little, so it indicates the wounds haven’t yet calcified, and that’s a good sign. I encourage you to look into it, and various healing modalities.
https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/6-dysfunctional-family-roles-their-characteristics
https://www.simplepractice.com/resource/attachment-styles-worksheet/ (applies to all relationships)
https://ineffableliving.com/50-shadow-work-journal-prompts-that-go-deeper-than-surface-reflection/ (I would leave this until you’re stabilized and hitting plateaus).
In fact, I recommended starting with the basics, and exploring what help may be available to you until you standardize. But I have full faith in your capability to manage the journey.
Best to you, fellow traveler. 🫂