You get smarter but young people keep being dumb.
All right all right all right.
In your mid 30s all the pets you and your friends got as your first pets as “adults” die. That first dog for your first place? Dead. That first cat after college? Dead. They all die in the same ~5 years period so you relive your loss through your friends over and over, and dog save you if those happened to be the pets your children were born with… it’s so hard
RIP Evey, Momo, Bonnie, Otie, Maddoc, Buddy Lee, Twinkie, Blue and Pippen, among so many others, we still miss you 💔
My wife and I have been married for 15 years, our 9th cat is now 2 years old.
We started with my two, and her two. Magic (1), Carmen (2), Max (3), and Paddy (4).
We lost Magic and Carmen (siblings) when they were 15. Then Paddy.
We took in Whisper (5), as a stray, then got Rocket (6) and Keanu (7).
We were forced to downsize and limited to two cats. Our son was attached to Max, and took him. He later died from cancer.
Whisper DEMANDED the outdoor life and was adopted by a horse farm where he was hit by a car.
When we bought a house, two of our neighbor cats had litters so we took in Lorelei (8) and Willow (9).
It fucking hurts.
Seriously, every day there’s a new ache or pain. Things that never hurt when I was younger now hurt if I think about them wrong.
Body on Monday: “So we’re taking a step today, are we? Not without your ankle suddenly feeling like a knitting needle is being driven through it for the next week”.
Body on Tuesday: “Sneezed, huh? Enjoy the feeling of your lower trapezius muscles being ripped from your back!”
Body on Wednesday: “Did you turn your head slightly to glance over that way? Boy, you don’t like this neck, do you?!”
Body on Thursday: “Yeah, nothing fancy today. Just flaring up this old back injury, because you turned over in your sleep”.
And so on …
You’re getting tired. When you ride your bicycle, it always goes uphill, even when in fact you’re going downhill. And the older you grow, the steeper it gets.
The future seems distant but the past is an instant. Your life seems like it went by in a flash.
You have to live with all the mistakes you’ve made for your entire life.
While it is commonly shown in media, the “seeing everyone you love die” thing is generally reserved for immortals; but it can happen just getting old, too. You’ll likely die long after your grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles. And if you’re very unlucky, a lot of people younger than you as well.
You aren’t getting any more teeth, so take care of the ones you have.
Stress produces cortisol. Cortisol reduces your empathy.
Like Casandra, knowing the future won’t make you happy or get people to listen to you.
Intelligence is setting your medication to automatically arrive when you run out. Wisdom is having it arrive a week before you run out.
Stress produces cortisol. Cortisol reduces your empathy.
Thanks, needed that today, really helps.
Cortisol reduces empathy
That makes a lot of sense
People who don’t take care of themselves can’t take care of others.
Getting older is great! You’ve been around long enough to see how some things change while others stay the same. You start to care more about some things and less about the rest. Every year is my favorite age! Except for the year i lost my mom- that was worst thing about aging.
I’ll tell you the worst thing. Far worse than anyone else here can mention.
Time is constantly accelerating. When you are 5, the concept of a year is nearly an eternity. But your perception of time changes the older you get. Every year is shorter and shorter. Like you are on a constantly accelerating ship headed to the end of existence.
Keep doing new and novel things. It helps!
Humans adapt. We have abysmal bandwidth, so we have adapted. If anything is normal you don’t notice. You reserve bandwidth for the unexpected. You already know how to react and what to do/feel regarding daily life.
Break rhythm
Absolutely, you stop measuring the passage of time in days and years and start measuring it in experiences. When you’re young and everything is new it’s absolutely full. The 10th or hundredth time you’ve done something you handle it more easily but it also starts to seem like one ‘thing’.
Routine is the quickest way to looking back on life and feeling like it was the blink of an eye.
mental pain is silently being replaced by physical pain
The mental pain doesn’t just go away, though.
It really sucks having young people getting on your lawn.
Realizing how stupid you were when you were young.
The alternative is not realizing it. Realizing how stupid you used to be is how you grow.
And it never ends! When I was 25, I cringed at how I was when I was a teenager, but I was glad that at least I wasn’t like that anymore. Now that I’m in my 30s, I cringe at how I was when I was 25!
I’m in my fifties and still occasionally cringe about things I did last week.
Still making rapid developments I see!
Lol that’s some pretty good self-awareness
Later you’ll cringe at how you were in your thirties, forties and so on.
Exactly! 😫
For me it is more like, when you interact with young adults - you will able to see the difference between developing and actually developmed brain.
Tho not everyone reaches that point.
And yes. We all been that stupid.No one cringes at the thought of pooping their pants when they were 1 year old. It’s normal development at the time and soon you move on.
It’s the same at any age. It really should carry on like this if you continue to learn and grow through your life.
I’m still pretty young yet but one thing I’ve noticed with growing older is how less and less people your age seem to want to have fun. I don’t mean acting silly I mean finding time for joy in life and expressing that inner child. And yet they still make mistakes and deal with them like a kid would :/
It really feels like being with children acting like adults, who have forgotten how to be children. Just weird lol.
Yeah, one thing that’s held true throughout the years is that no one really leaves high school in their heads. I’m generalizing and referring to groups rather than individuals.
Spending so much time going to medical appointments.
Spending so much time going to medical appointments.
Spending so much time
going toIN THE WAITING ROOM for medical appointments.FTFY
