• stickyprimer@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Huh. Throw out the cheating angle and what you have is a restaurant business development plan for 5 or 6 ladies you know who’d like to eat for free every night. I guess the bill comes due when they need to shake the dude loose at the end of the night and then deal with his phone calls for weeks or worse.

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      11 hours ago

      Throw out the cheating angle

      At this point, it’s less “cheating” and more “being trafficked by your boyfriend”

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        7 hours ago

        Back when I was still using online dating, it was part of the process of eliminating/reducing scammers, as well as disqualifying anyone who wanted to move to whatsapp. No idea even what portion of scammers vs legit people I eliminated that way. Eventually I was jaded enough by the whole thing that I had trouble engaging at all and just gave up on online dating.

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          11 hours ago

          There are plenty of services that let you use burner numbers. Hushed and Burner are some popular ones, or MySudo if you want several whole profiles (phone number, email, etc).

          Or if you’re insane like me you can self-host a custom frontend for Telnyx.

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        I matched with two women recently who weren’t using their real name on the dating app, just first initials, A and Z. For A, I didn’t get her number until the end of our first date. For Z, she gave me her number before she gave me her real name and we still haven’t had our first date yet, busy schedules.

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          12 hours ago

          I find that fascinating. I just wouldn’t turn up to an internet date who wouldn’t give me their number. If safety is an issue then get a burner number.

          I married an internet date and our kids are nearly teens now. 🤷‍♀️