I’ll assume you’re a cis guy who is unambiguously read by strangers as one. If this is the case, wear a pin that says he/him and has a trans pride flag. If anyone asks about it, say you’re not trans, but an ally.
The best part? You can use a pronoun pin in a way trans people can’t - to unambiguously identify and call out bigoted assholes.
It’s hard for trans people to call out misgendering, as bigots know how to deflect. If a bigot knows someone is trans, even if they appear cisgender, they will still misgender them. When called out, they’ll deny it and say, “sorry, I just read you that way.”
Well you as a cisgender man can call them out on this bullshit. If you wear a he/his pronoun pin, eventually someone will aggressively call you “she.” And in that case, they have nowhere to hide. They can’t pretend they’re just going off how they read you. They clearly just saw your pronoun pin, concluded you were trans, and decided to treat you in a way that they thought would hurt you the most. And you can publicly call them out on it.
So, I am a cishet guy with trans family and am absolutely a supporter of an individual’s right to self-determination, and I’ve thought through all of this and considered wearing such pins, but… I have a problem with the general concept of categorizing/pigeonholing people (including myself), I don’t like the idea that people should or should need to label themselves, and I’m very uncomfortable with virtue signaling (which frankly I think what you’re suggesting very much is) and with adopting the iconography of a community that I’m not necessarily a member of, which feels kind of like cultural appropriation.
Also, yeah, publicly supporting people who are targeted by discrimination is a great motivation, but the idea of wearing such a pin with the intent/hope of provoking a confrontation with another person is… very disturbing.
To offer a trans point of view.
For me every cis person wearing a pronoun pin or writing their pronouns in their mail signature or something is a win. It is normalised that way and a the pin or the pronouns in the signature are no longer a sign that the person using them is trans.
Cheers, a cis passing trans guy who wears a pin (for above reasons) but actually never gets confronted about it
I’ll assume you’re a cis guy who is unambiguously read by strangers as one. If this is the case, wear a pin that says he/him and has a trans pride flag. If anyone asks about it, say you’re not trans, but an ally.
The best part? You can use a pronoun pin in a way trans people can’t - to unambiguously identify and call out bigoted assholes.
It’s hard for trans people to call out misgendering, as bigots know how to deflect. If a bigot knows someone is trans, even if they appear cisgender, they will still misgender them. When called out, they’ll deny it and say, “sorry, I just read you that way.”
Well you as a cisgender man can call them out on this bullshit. If you wear a he/his pronoun pin, eventually someone will aggressively call you “she.” And in that case, they have nowhere to hide. They can’t pretend they’re just going off how they read you. They clearly just saw your pronoun pin, concluded you were trans, and decided to treat you in a way that they thought would hurt you the most. And you can publicly call them out on it.
So, I am a cishet guy with trans family and am absolutely a supporter of an individual’s right to self-determination, and I’ve thought through all of this and considered wearing such pins, but… I have a problem with the general concept of categorizing/pigeonholing people (including myself), I don’t like the idea that people should or should need to label themselves, and I’m very uncomfortable with virtue signaling (which frankly I think what you’re suggesting very much is) and with adopting the iconography of a community that I’m not necessarily a member of, which feels kind of like cultural appropriation.
Also, yeah, publicly supporting people who are targeted by discrimination is a great motivation, but the idea of wearing such a pin with the intent/hope of provoking a confrontation with another person is… very disturbing.
To offer a trans point of view. For me every cis person wearing a pronoun pin or writing their pronouns in their mail signature or something is a win. It is normalised that way and a the pin or the pronouns in the signature are no longer a sign that the person using them is trans.
Cheers, a cis passing trans guy who wears a pin (for above reasons) but actually never gets confronted about it
Well, you can be uncomfortable. I’m comfortable with that.