Terms like “transgender” [T], trans-masculine [TM] or trans-feminine [TF] are equally as informative but not unpleasant and dysphoric as “male-to-female” and “female-to-male”, which by many people are and will be viewed negatively.

Since posting and sexting is supposed to be about about fun and pleasure, I suggest changing the current rules to make space more inviting and accepting for different people. (:

Due to the mod request, I am personally fine with changing my gender tags ([F] (trans)) to [NB] for the time being and abstain from further posting as I’m principally opposed to refering to myself as “male to female” instead of “trans-feminine” or simply “transgender woman”. There is no need to introduce each post with implication of being “half a man” or “formerly a man” and the like.

It’s not that I am deeply offended or pretentious, but rather not taking pleasure from being grouped together with men [M] whenever I want to post something sexy.

P.S. I was otherwise very happy with my experience and enjoyed all the posts, comments and interactions (; <3

Cheers

  • ayawnymouse@fedinsfw.appEnglish
    8·
    9 days ago

    The tags are for viewers like me.

    In my subjective experience, porn (and sex) is one of the extremely few contexts where a person’s genitals do matter: I simply don’t enjoy seeing naked people with penises regardless of whether they were born that way or not and regardless of gender. It’s just a personal turn off. (To me there are exceptions for couples/groups, and I wish the tagging was different so they wouldn’t have to also get filtered, but that’s beside the point)

    I get that not everyone cares about plumbing even in this context. But I sincerely appreciate the rule requiring tags. As for OP’s request of changing the tags, sounds fine to me. (And I would love if couples could get specific tags too, even if it’s just like [MF] instead of [M][F])

    • FluyOnTheWall@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      3·
      9 days ago

      A question to you and u/tits: Does that mean that trans woman after bottom surgery can or even should tag their posts [F] because they now have a vulva instead of a penis? Also, do you include trans men [FTM] in your filter, since they typically do not have a penis?

      I don’t mean to needle you, it just sound like what you want are the tags [penis] and [vulva], not anything to do with gender.

      • ayawnymouse@fedinsfw.appEnglish
        1·
        4 days ago

        To elaborate a bit more, I also am only attracted to fem or at least androgynous people, so post surgery trans women sure, but not trans men. The tagging situation for that level of detail could get complicated easily. And is different for me than the other reply you got since they care about birth genitals and I care about current ones.

        But yeah for me ideal tags would be the combination of (current) equipment and presentation. Even just that could get complex with couples’ tags, but I think it would be worth it.

      • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
        22·
        8 days ago

        I’m not interested in neogenitals, either looking at them or interacting with them.

        To put it impolitely, what I want from my porn (and the [F] filter) is sexy, breedable females. Any variety of MTF is not that. FTM is that, except maybe after phalloplasty, I don’t know the details on that.

        I’m not going to claim to have an enlightened dick. It wants what it wants

        • NyxAiri@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
          3·
          8 days ago

          Would you like to also verify which women are fertile and breedable before they post porn? Should infertile men without both functional testicles be excluded from [M] tag?

          Trans bodies on hormones or post- op usually smell and feel to the touch like their cisgender counterparts. Apparently even some doctors can’t differentiate genitals from neogenitals.

          Clearly fertility is not the main reason these tags exist. 😝 Yes I’m all for separate [T] gender tags but it doesn’t have anything to do with fertility or breedability.

          • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
            12·
            8 days ago

            I can’t speak for everyone, though I suspect I’m the average viewer of the [F] filter. For me, it’s 100% about breedability. Hormones and surgery can’t change what matters. An infertile woman still has the equipment, even if some of it’s faulty. No comment on [M], it’s not my interest.

            I know this isn’t what some people want to hear, but that’s how sexual attraction works for me, and likely most viewers of the [F] tag. Sorry, but it is what it is.

            • FluyOnTheWall@fedinsfw.appEnglish
              4·
              8 days ago

              As a viewer of the F tag, I’m fairly certain you are wrong about most of “us”.

              To me, what’s attractive about a person or their post is the thought of what I might want to do with them and/or they with me. Those fantasies almost never feature getting someone pregnant. More likely they feature the opposite, actually. In general, I feel like most people are here for the process, not the potential result. ^^

        • FluyOnTheWall@fedinsfw.appEnglish
          2·
          8 days ago

          Why not put it politely?

          I respect your kinks, but I’m not sure a wide-ranging subreddit like gonewild is the best place to get your fix - even on the F tag.

          • NyxAiri@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
            3·
            7 days ago

            It can’t be said politely because it’s pure sexism concealed as a kink. Women can be attractive in so many ways that do not involve “breedability” but some people can’t comprehend it - and it makes one wonder if they actually like women 😅

            Edit: I checked and it’s a transphobic troll account made 2 days ago solely to keep posting these comments under my posts so there is no point engaging further as the issue has already been discussed.

            • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
              12·
              7 days ago

              Consider “breedable” to be imperfect shorthand that doesn’t capture the entirety of sexual attraction, but provides a simple baseline for using the [F] tag.

              There’s plenty of other tags to use, or !transgonewild@fedinsfw.app

              EDIT: In response to your edit, asking a question and getting an answer you don’t like isn’t transphobia, or trolling. I don’t “keep” doing anything under your posts, and only engaged directly with you in this single post, after you engaged with me.

          • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
            12·
            7 days ago

            How would you put that politely?

            I respect your desire for it just be a kink or a fix. I think this community is bigger than just your preferences, however.

    • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      32·
      9 days ago

      Another viewer here, same. When I’m looking at porn, I don’t care about gender. I only care about sex. [F (trans)] should not be used, because it shows up when I filter by [F]. I get that some people don’t mind, but I strongly do not want. I don’t care about other tags like [T], as long as I can filter by [F] and not get any of that.