This guy is 38 and she was part of some chatroom and he started talking to her 13 year old little sister in a way that very obviously had ill intent. She called him out on this and posted screenshots of that chatroom online. Now ever since this, he has a site where he archives almost everything she says online. She made a post about how she prefers cats over dogs, then he archived that and posted the link to the archive on his site saying “never trust a dog hater with anything” and it just goes on, and on, and on for years.

When she even makes a passing mention about him, even if he’s not named or only vaguely mentioned, he chimes in, and posts a link to his site with some variation of “don’t trust her, she’s not to be trusted” and links to pages on his site which were all made by him over the years in an attempt to maliciously discredit her. It’s often a gish-gallop of links.

He also says that he’s made an account on every site he knows of, likely in an attempt at surveilling or intimidating her.

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    Yeah, you go to the police and fheir hosting provider. At no point do you teach women that the right action when bullied is for them to take a step back and be quiet.

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      Care to point out where anyone said “this woman needs to step back and be quiet,” or does your whole argument hinge on this strawman?

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        That’s what “change your socials to private” means. To verify this, ask yourself why yours aren’t.

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          The few I have are set to private actually because there’s zero reason to expose personal information to a bunch of strangers.

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                I find it better to always post under my real name rather than believe I’ll manage to stay anonymous whilst discussing everyday things on social media. At some point someone will connect that Toyota Camry driving person in Oregon who works at a place that has just had a bunch of layoffs with that nickname and then you’ll have to rethink everything you’ve posted.

                Victims aren’t the ones that need to close down and stay quiet. The perpetrators are.

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                  So your real name is “troed?” Is that a single name like “Cher?”

                  Funny that you take the idealist approach while committing the very act that you’re railing against as if your whole argument is worthless. Should I call the police on you and report you to fedia.io as you suggested someone do when dealing with an unhinged individual like yourself?

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                    It’s indeed - and unique enough that you should be able to find me in seconds.

                    Feel free to call the Swedish police and tell them that you don’t like my arguments. Or for that matter, Jerry (who runs fedia.io).

                    I guess you realized you couldn’t counter my actual point.

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          My socials are set to private for lots of reasons - situations like this being just one. Pretty much everyone I know also has them set to private. Its just smart