I don’t know why so many people think you have to do one or the other, that you can’t host your own and use spotify.

No matter how much you might hate Spotify from an ideological point of view, you cannot deny its amazing music discovery ability.

I use Spotify as a way to find what to add to my collection, which I then stream using Plexamp when it makes more sense than just using Spotify - which isn’t very often tbh, only really when license issues prevent an album being in my country on Spotify. I can share my plex music library with friends and family though.