First comment: “My 30 seconds just isn’t going to cut it.” -> Clearly a man
Second comment: “That’s why you have a mouth and hands, potentially even getting your thigh in there. Honestly, the penis in the vagina is sometimes the least exciting part about sex with that arrangement of genitals.” -> Telling a man that PIV is not the only thing to do, but that he should be putting in more effort than just offering a penis
Third comment (my comment): “The same is true the other way round too. Which makes it all the more frustrating that a lot of women think their whole contribution to sex is to lay there and provide a vagina.” -> Telling women that PIV is not the only thing to do, but that it would be cool if they too put more effort in than just offering a vagina
First comment: “My 30 seconds just isn’t going to cut it.” -> Clearly a man
Second comment: “That’s why you have a mouth and hands, potentially even getting your thigh in there. Honestly, the penis in the vagina is sometimes the least exciting part about sex with that arrangement of genitals.” -> Telling a man that PIV is not the only thing to do, but that he should be putting in more effort than just offering a penis
No, that says “there are other ways to have sex than PIV,” it does not say "you should be putting in more effort "
Third comment (my comment): “The same is true the other way round too. Which makes it all the more frustrating that a lot of women think their whole contribution to sex is to lay there and provide a vagina.” -> Telling women that PIV is not the only thing to do, but that it would be cool if they too put more effort in than just offering a vagina
Your response to a woman saying “there are other ways to have sex besides PIV” is “it would be cool if women put more effort into sex.” You’re telling this to the woman who is saying there are other ways to have sex besides PIV. All she said was “you can use your mouth, too!” to the guy making a joke about lasting 30 seconds. Nowhere did she say anything about men at large. Do you think this is some competition between men and women so you had to throw in to say “no actually women are worse?” Do you genuinely not see how what you said in this context was totally uncalled for and sexist?
Or you’re both reading the intended meaning uncharitably and huffing your own farts over your own superiority, which is exhausting and pointless to reply to.
The point was clearly, “It goes both ways.” He can use his mouth, too, so can she! Boo lazy men lovers, boo lazy women lovers. Unless that’s what you’re into!
Acknowledging that there’s different ways to have sex besides using a penis isn’t some crazy statement that needs to be challenged by complaining about women.
I’m honestly surprised by the piling on of downvotes. I thought people here were at least slightly more self aware than reddit, given how LGBTQ inclusive most instances here are, but I was obviously naive.
Yes, certain observations can be uncomfortable but that’s not a bad thing. It provides substance, for one, which your comment lacks
First comment: “Conventional sex can be the least exciting part of sex.”
Second comment: “Yeah, so many women just lay there and contribute a vagina.”
You: “What an insightful comment!”
🤮
No.
First comment: “My 30 seconds just isn’t going to cut it.” -> Clearly a man
Second comment: “That’s why you have a mouth and hands, potentially even getting your thigh in there. Honestly, the penis in the vagina is sometimes the least exciting part about sex with that arrangement of genitals.” -> Telling a man that PIV is not the only thing to do, but that he should be putting in more effort than just offering a penis
Third comment (my comment): “The same is true the other way round too. Which makes it all the more frustrating that a lot of women think their whole contribution to sex is to lay there and provide a vagina.” -> Telling women that PIV is not the only thing to do, but that it would be cool if they too put more effort in than just offering a vagina
Your comment: 🤮
I’m sorry, can we read those back again?
No, that says “there are other ways to have sex than PIV,” it does not say "you should be putting in more effort "
Your response to a woman saying “there are other ways to have sex besides PIV” is “it would be cool if women put more effort into sex.” You’re telling this to the woman who is saying there are other ways to have sex besides PIV. All she said was “you can use your mouth, too!” to the guy making a joke about lasting 30 seconds. Nowhere did she say anything about men at large. Do you think this is some competition between men and women so you had to throw in to say “no actually women are worse?” Do you genuinely not see how what you said in this context was totally uncalled for and sexist?
Not only does he not see it, but the amount of upvotes on his comments reveal yet again the majority opinion on this site and it’s disgusting.
Or you’re both reading the intended meaning uncharitably and huffing your own farts over your own superiority, which is exhausting and pointless to reply to.
The point was clearly, “It goes both ways.” He can use his mouth, too, so can she! Boo lazy men lovers, boo lazy women lovers. Unless that’s what you’re into!
I wasn’t talking about anyone being a lazy lover.
Acknowledging that there’s different ways to have sex besides using a penis isn’t some crazy statement that needs to be challenged by complaining about women.
I’m honestly surprised by the piling on of downvotes. I thought people here were at least slightly more self aware than reddit, given how LGBTQ inclusive most instances here are, but I was obviously naive.
This is where all the incels went after they were pushed off of Reddit.
Those sentences don’t connect, your reading makes no sense. Try this:
first comment: sex isn’t just about penetration
second comment: and yet a lot of women seem to think this, given how many just lay there
There’s simply no way this man has slept with enough people to proclaim that most women don’t put in effort during sex.