• Doomsider@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Strangulation and breathe play causes permanent brain death. There is no safe way to engage in it.

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      3 days ago

      My wife likes when I grab her neck. I am an introverted duck kind of guy, okay? Not your ”Im gonna choke you while I fuck you” kind of guy.

      While learning how to do this appropriately, I had squeezed too hard once and killed the mood. 🤷‍♂️

      It’s more of a grab, firm hand… not really choke.

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        3 days ago

        Not trying to judge you sir. Just stating the fact that constricting breathe in any way leads to brain death.

        The euphoria that is felt from doing this is due to oxygen deprivation. Doing this regularly with a partner will lead to permanent brain death. This does not mean they die of course, but a part of the brain does and the damage is cumulative.

        I personally don’t find giving my partner brain damage to be very sexy. Have fun and be safe!

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          3 days ago

          In my wife’s case, it’s mental and not physical. She doesn’t like being choked. She likes the feeling of my hand around her neck. It’s like a domination kind of thing, or something. In similar vein, she likes being called a good girl.

          There is no oxygen deprivation going on.

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            yeah, a distinction has to be made between real choking (which can’t really be done safely, even a little bit) and mimicking choking with minimal pressure placed somewhere it won’t actually affect blood/air flow. I am willing to do the latter but would never ever consider the former.

            Knowing some anatomy helps, as it’s a lot safer to put pressure on muscles like the upper trapezius that are fully behind the trachea or major arteries/veins. Combine that with light pressure in the front on the collarbone and you have a relatively safe approximation of choking.

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          3 days ago

          the brain does and the damage is cumulative.

          How can you tell if that cumulative damage is present? What are the symptoms? I didn’t know that :o .

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            3 days ago

            Most commonly seizures, memory loss, motor control loss, dementia, or in more extreme situations coma and even a persistent vegetative state.

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              3 days ago

              Well, the coma and vegetative state are clear, but the cumulative damage is new to me. Thank you for your response.

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      3 days ago

      The following obvious only if consensual:

      • Grabbing the neck is fine
      • Pressing some on the neck is fine
      • Restricting movement is fine

      Choking can cause permanent damage to the neck and or throat and can cause severe neurological damage and or death. You really want to risk that? Even with a partner that had it done “many times and nothing bad happened!”, yeah. It only needs to go wrong once, you only need to slip up once, you only need one tiny thing going wrong and both you and your partner will have your life taken or ruined.

      Just don’t, this literally isn’t worth it. Get high (weed) and have sex, that’ll do just fine